Help me find my birth mom or dad!?

Question

I need to find my birth parents, but I don't know how. I only know a little information like I was born in hagerstown, MD/ I was named baby X until i was adopted/ There was a mix up in the hospitle and i was put in an adoption agency/ my parents were not married, my mom was getting divoriced from her husband and did it w/ another man, and then my mom & her husband descided not to get divoriced but the husband wouldn't raise another mans child and my dad couldn't raid a child alone. thats all I know right now! please someone help! I'm a 19 yr old girl and I was born on May 31 1988, and I wanna find my mom or dad.

Answer 1

Try writing Maury or Dr. Phil. If you have money you can hire a private investigator or take a trip to Hagerstown, MD. Good luck, but never forget your real parents are the ones who raised you.

Answer 2

Start with these folks.  They can help you with search techniques.  

http://www.pacer-adoption.org/

Answer 3

Go to your adoption center and ask  there for some information about your parents like where they live right now.Good luck i hope you will find your parents!!!!!!

Answer 4

Wow, I don't have an answer for you, but I wish I did. My grandfather was adopted and my grandma was also adopted. They married and had 12 kids and over 50 grandkids and focused on what they had. They did their best to love us alI. don't really know what I'm trying to say. But all I know is I loved them both and they were awesome people. Best of luck to you. Sorry I couldn't help you more. The people who adopted you must have really cared about you, they are your parents.

Answer 5

talk to your adoption agency. they should have some idea.

good luck!!

Answer 6

i agree with some people have been saying. start with the adoption agencyyou went through. and from there you will need to know if the adoption was opened or closed. i dont know if you know the difference, but an open adoption is where the parents and child can have the choice to have contact. and a closed adoption where where the child can not contact the parents. i wish you the best of luck and i hope your adoption was left open.

Answer 7

I don't have the greatest of news for you but according to MD state law you are not an adult until the age of 21 when it comes your adoptions records.  The good news is that MD has a confidential intermediary program that will contact your birth parents on your behalf once you reach the age of 21.  If they are in agreement to meet with you then you are reunited.  These programs usually have costs associated with them but they are very successful.  You also have the right to petition the court at the age of 21 to receive your original birth certificate.  

Here is a link that explains the laws and who to contact.

http://laws.adoption.com/statutes/maryla...

Some programs allow the adoptive parents to petition on behalf of the adoptee.  Not sure if this is the case but worth looking into.

Also start checking as many online adoption registries to see if they have posted looking for you.  Even though the state of MD does not consider you an adult you can post of many online sites in the hopes that someones comes looking.

Good luck

Answer 8

I can only speak about the way in which I have helped other

people, (females).

You really do have MORE INFORMATION THAN YOU THINK!

Let me show you, o.k.?

(1)Born Hagerstown, MD

(2) Named Baby X

(3) Mix-Up at Hospital   (Hospital birth records should be on

                                            file for Baby X)

Note: Check to see how many babies were born on that day

at that hospital (you may have to have an attorney. Some-

times a Legal Attendant/advocate can help on this).

Note:  Since the "Mix-up" Occurred at the Hospital, BY THE

HOSPITAL...this may be ''GROUNDS FOR A LAWSUIT''

and perhaps.....COMPENSATION PAY...VICTIMS PAY..

FOR YOU...since you were not in a position to make any

decisions for yourself.

(4)Adoption Agency: "Which One". Where??

Note: Sometimes, only a lawyer can obtain those juvenile

records, and then it must be, through a Court Order.

(5)Who provided you with the information you do have?

If it is correct, then you do ''have the circumstances of both

parents", and that's a lot more than a lot of people have.

(6)Parents, not married, baby conceived by  3rd person

Note: male, outside the family unity, of your parents.

(7)3rd Party...Your birth father...may be difficult...sometimes.

(8) Your Birth Father was a Single Man, at the Time...

Fact: May not have known how to ''work & raise a child'' or

didn't feel that he could provide, properly.

(9)Your mother did marry the same male she was with when

she got pregnant with you, which means they must have been

together, for awhile.

(10)Your birthdate: May 31, 1988.

(11) Your Deep Need, to FIND  BIRTH PARENTS.

(12)Born as Baby X, til the Adoption, which means,  a bit

of time lapsed.....

NOW, I THINK YOU COULD PROCEED....

(1) Write several letters, to "Dear Editor", and  have these

letters, published  in Every Newspaper, in any area, you

think necessary, for it to ''get noticed".'

Note: You might tell a little about the facts, of your life, while

you were raised in an adoptive home, and why you want to

be re-connected to your birth parents. (The public are usually

sympathetic to individuals, who are searchin for loved ones.

(2) Go to see the local Librarian, and ask for the Addresses

and Names of Organizations which Lists names of Other

People ...who are also seeking connections..to lost loved

ones.

(3) Be sure you put an article "Dear Editor'' Letter, in the

Newspaper at Hagerstown, MD.  If you don't get an answer

within 3 months, put another one in it, because I can guarantee that EVENTUALLY, someone would give notice

to it, and contact you.

(4) Be sure and put a"Dear Editor'' Letter, in the Newspaper

where the Adoption took place.

(5) Be sure and put  a "Dear Editor" Letter in the Newspaper

in the town where the ADOPTION AGENCY IS.

(6) Be sure and put a ''Dear Editor" Letter in the Newspaper

where the Hospital is located.

(7) You might Contact Legal Aid, in your area, and talk with

them, about any parts of this situation.

(8) Contact the Nearest Office of the NAACP (Civil Rights)

NAACP Hdqtrs 4805 Mt. Hope Dr. Baltimore, MD 21215

www.naacp.org

NOTE:  YOUR ''RIGHTS'' WERE VIOLATED. Believe Me.

(9) There's a National and State Registry which has lists

of PEOPLE LOOKING FOR PEOPLE. Check the Library.

(10) Don't lose Faith....This will be a slow Process...so

KEEP THE FAITH..

(11) Do mention the Fact, that you probably do have some

Siblings, since your mom did marry.

(12)DO NOT PUT THE INFORMATION IN THE NEWSPAPER ABOUT THE ''MIX-UP'' AT THE HOSPITAL.

Save that Scoop for the Attorneys.

I hope this will help Guide you to find your birth family, and

I hope that it will not take very long. You do have a lot of good

information.

Do try to ''follow my instructions''. THEY DO WORK.

I'VE BEEN VERY SUCCESSFUL, IN HELPING UNITE

FAMILIES.  Each Year I host a community reunion, and just

''bring anyone together, to share informtion'', have breakfast

and lunch, and ENJOY SHARING INFORMATION, and in

turn they pass it on to others, and  We COME TOGETHER

NEXT YEAR. This Year is Special, for this State celebrates

it's  100th year of Statehood.

I'll be praying for you..Good Luck...from this old woman...

            "Too Funny"

Answer 9

I'm not sure,but I'll pray that you'll find them.Good luck and God bless!