Help me help my friend?

Question

Hiya, this is about someone i know. She is 17 and has a baby who is one. But the baby looks really small, but that could just be him. But he doesn't get fed a lot. What should they be eating at one yrs old? And she doesn't like staying in so she walks about the street with him in the pram and when ever i am with them he is nearly always in his pram, she had to go back home to give him his tea then we went back out but he was fed in his pram...is it ok for a baby to spend all his time in a pram? He can walk but i am worried he will fall behind. And also how are they supposed to walk? I think he walks a little weird, like his nappy is to tight or something, or one leg is bigger than the other. Can someone give me advice on what to do, i am not saying my friend is a bad mum i am just concered. Please dont tell me to mind my own buissness. I am going to be a mum too and it would also help me when my baba gets to that age. Thanks x

Answer 1

Hiya,

Doesnt matter what age you are-you sound responsible seeking help and advice for your friend!

Anyway---maybe you could buy a baby book-one with development stages and information....then you can look at it with your mate over a cup of coffe--you can make it informal like you are looking at it for yourself...maybe you could point a few 'interesting' things out :)

Maybe suggest you go to a Toddler Group or Stay and Play together...gives child chance to play and walk around as buggies arent allowed in the centres. They are usually free or very cheap and they'll be other mums and children that you can see and speak to. In my experience must 'mum's' at hese groups love to give advice :) also Health Visitors sometimes attend them.

When you have your health visitor visit invite your friend over that day...maybe that would get the ball rolling ?

When you and your friend go on these walks go to the park or something...then you can get him out and have a play-this will give him chance to practice his walking skills.

As for being in the buggy-as long as he is reaching the development norms for walking and is still growing then I wouldnt worry too much about buggy...although you may sometimes  light heartedly mention to your friend that you'd like to walk with him or something. Say you'd like the practice :)

Good Luck with your own baba x

Answer 2

Hello i see your concern but it is not your wee baby,I no loads of young mummy's that have there baby out all the time ,but they do feed them ,im sorry but your not there 24 hours a day to see what your friend feeds her baby ,so i say dont worry about it,If you were going to be a mummy your self would you like your friend to do this on you but I'm sorry your not a friend.

Answer 3

I don't know. And aren't you a little yound to become a mom at 17? Anyways, maybe hes underweight??

Answer 4

I work in an infant room in a daycare.  If your friend is taking her baby for regular check ups at the pediatricians, I would just assume that the doctor is voicing any concerns that may be there.  At one, a child can eat just about anything.  I also think all toddlers walks a little weird.  Perhaps you can ask if you can take him out of the pram when you are together.  It takes a lot of energy to keep up with a toddler, so maybe she just wants a break to relax. If you are willing to help I am sure she would appreciate it.

Answer 5

at 1 they should be eating soild foods such as chunks of fruit, bread, pasta, potatoes, chicken, pretty much everything you do, but still having about 2 bottles of milk a day. he should be walking a bit to get exercise, why dont you both take him to the park so he can toddle around with a ball while you chat? obviously he cant walk too far as he is only a bub still lol!  as for his walking... maybe his nappy is too tight, maybe your friend does it up tightly so it doesn't fall down or loosen too quickly? you could say something without being rude like "oh i think he might've fell over, he's walking funny"  

and she should still be seeing the health visitor, has he been getting his injections?? coz thats essential.

if you are genuinely worried about his safety or health, give social services a ring (dont worry they wont take the baby away), they will decide whether your friend needs help or not, and this help would be like classes or a daily helper or something. if you're this observant and caring towards someone elses child then  i think you're going to be a lovely mum, good luck!!!! x*x

Answer 6

lol..about your ranting..:) you are allowed you vent your frustrations... especially if you get some don't particular like the answers you get answers...

Its very thoughtful of you to be concerned about your friends baby...

Maybe you can try to encourage to her to let her kid be more active...

You also mentioned that you are pregnant,  you can learn from the way your friend takes care of her kid...

Best of luck you you.

Take care. GoRa NeatEye x