Help me.. im so sad?

Question

im 17 and ive had such a bad outlook on life ever since my mom died unexpectedly. its like a part of me was taken away. im always so ******* paranoid about death, myself dying, my dad my sister and so not looking forward to the future. its just im so scared for whats to come next. i guess before i felt as if i had every thing under control when that wasnt the case at all. idk what im going to do. i feel so lonely and so lost. my whole future is totally screwed. what should i do with my depressed and sad being?

Answer 1

My mother died when I was around 13 years old. She, had a form of cancer. My dad then raised my older brother and I. Taking us to soccer practice, lacrosse practice, dance classes, karate, and all sorts of activities. Sometimes he had to be in two places at once. It was really hard for us all, but time slowly started to heal our broken hearts. Even though we still mourn today, we had to learn that life goes on and even though it was the hardest thing I've ever done, moving on was a process that took years and years. We found that staying together and just being there for one another strengthened our family bonds. We also learned she will always be with us, no matter how long it's been and will be. I will never forget her, and I know no one else will. She was a great woman, a lovely wife and the most amazing mother. Moving takes time, and you CAN do this! Like I said, it is hard but just remember your mom is looking down at you smiling, and she would NOT like to see you depressed like this! She would want you to be happy.

I'm sorry for your loss. Have a star.

-Lilly

Answer 2

I understand what you are going through.  I lost my father, my mother, my only uncle, then my younger sister.  Now my older sister had an open heart surgery.  My suggestion is that you find a good therapist and also a good psychiatric that give you a temporary medication.  Think that whatever your mother is, she is with you not physically but spiritually.  Some people go through a lot things and they do well, but is like you and I need some help.  This is one of the most difficult moment, especially you mom. Your are going to survive, don't worry about die.   It happen that way when one of our relative die, we think we are going to be next?  But no, we all are here only temporary, but you will survive.  Remenber that your mother wanted to see you happy if she would be alive she would like to see you doing the things that you want to do.  It's easy to say than do, but we all go thorugh this.  Take a little piece of paper and write a letter your mom and tell her how much you love her and the way you feel, then put inside the book or burn it.  Only time would cure that, but since you are to young it affect you more.  I used to live with my father and my sister and I was almost your age, and I know how devastating it was, I felt the same way.  My best advice is that you talk to your counseling at school and see a good therapist, thanks God that your mom did not suffer.  My mother had a stroke and was paralized in bed for 13 months and every time I saw her, it really broke my heart.  I will pray for you and your mom, you mom is in heaven.  I hope I helped you and you, find more people to give support.  God bless you  ga

Answer 3

first of all realize your feelings are normal....

when my mother died I was feeling like I was an orphan..(close as I can explain it).  I felt totally alone even with alot of family around.  But with the help of the Lord I was able to overcome.

felt the same way when my brother died at 44 yrs old.

we can't control what the future holds ..only from day to day do we make the best of what we have now.

your future is totally screwed only if you alllow it to be.

if you feel you are out of control --seek a doctor who will help you with medication.

we realize just how vonerable we are when someone very close to us dies...our minds wonder...we do not know the experience of death and no one has come back to tell us except Jesus....and He is our help in time of trouble.

May God help you through you trails

Answer 4

just take it one day at a time.  your mom would not want you to be sad. i'm a mom and i would want my children and family to go on and enjoy their life. make your mom proud.  do good in school.  be a good mentor for other children.  help others.

God bless you.

Answer 5

First off I am truely very sorry. But, the best thing to do maybe is find something that interests you- either a school sport, martial arts, or volunteering. Find something you are good at and makes you feel better about yourself. Or they always say pets are perfect way to help cure lonliness, and depression. The worst thing to do is to stay inside and dwell on the past. I hope I helped and goodluck! Don't worry things will get better! :)

Answer 6

i'm so sorry, sweetheart...here, if you wanna talk to someone, email me, okay? the email address is [e-mail] .... i'd love to try and help you.

Answer 7

If you haven't done so, try to get the help of a counsellor, therapist, or a support group.  Grief counselling can really help.  

It's so sad that you lost your mom at such a young age.  I'm a mom too, so I can guarantee you that you mom would be proud that you're asking for help.  She would want you to laugh again.  Please try to get the help you need.

If you don't know where to start, try asking a teacher, or visit your family doctor.  If you have older relatives (aunts, uncles, grandparents), ask them to help you get the help you need.

Answer 8

Awh, im so sorry you're going through this. I'm not trying to be rude, or funny, but maybe you should talk to a therapist or your doctor for depression pills. You just need to let it all out.