Help me learn to discipline my children when they do something wrong & to stick with it

Question

my kids do not listen to me hardly at all...they laugh at me when i try to punish them...does anyone have any suggestions? they used to listen to me so well...then they went to live with their dad & when i get them for visitation i notice the change when punished...

Answer 1

They say that you should make them sit in time out.  Give them a chair or designated place to sit in the house for so many minutes (typically, as long as they are old)  If they get up from the spot, pick them up and put them back in the time out spot and tell them the time has started over.  Keep doing this until eventually they give in, trust me it happens.  Once the time is almost up go sit next to them and ask "do you know why you are in time out" (make them point out their mistakes) the say "very good, it hurts mommy's feelings when you dont listen to me, and we dont like it when our feelings are hurt do we?"  Finish by saying "I love you, do you love me, ok now lets go and try to play nicely."  You will be amazed at the difference!

Answer 2

why are so many people SOOO afraid to spank their kids?

Answer 3

its called spanking

Answer 4

Time outs used to work very well for my child, but lately they aren't so good.  I have been taking away privileges/ video game time.  That seems to be working for now.



You have to adapt.  They have gone through a BIG change.  They are testing you.  Sorry - stay strong!

Answer 5

use the time out excuse method

have a booring room as the contemplation room

they do something wrong

stop that, if not you have to go into the contemplation room

they stop it even if they laugh cry whatever, ignore it, they are just baiting you to react, dont buy into it

if they dont stop

contemplation room for the number of min they are old (5 year old 5 min)

You are going to sit in here now because you did not listen to me when i told you to stop hiting the cd rack

walk out calmly (the trick is to apear calm and in control, when you do they will eventualy accept they cant bait you)

after 5 min go back in

i want you to apologise to me

if the kid apologise for doing wrong, then hug and make up, if they are still upset, then you leave for another 5 min

this is a patience test, remember the laugh and whatnot because they know if they make you loose control, then they gain control

you never raise your voice, if they leave the room you return them too it, be consistant, and untill they give you a sencere apology they do not get out of that room

it will seem endless in the begining, but in the end they will get the pic, that nothing they do or say can make you loose control, and each and every time they dont listen they will get landed in that room

I'd also talk to their dad about what happen at his place, its obvious he is not seting limits in his house which is confusing for the kids

kids need limits

Answer 6

Wow, i laugh at my Mom when she was angry about me once in my life. I was 11 years old and mum needs only a couple of seconds to change my lauhging to a painfull bawling. This teach me for the rest of my life not to laugh about Mom when she scolded me.

Meli