Help me overcome this problem?

Question

My Life is a mess. I am a straight male of 36 years. I have been masturbating for 22 years since I was 14. It started out with simple adult stories. I remember sneaking up my elder brother's room and reading some novels with mature content when no one was at home. Gradually I started reading p*o*r*n by the age of 19 when I was in college. There was this stack of p*o*r*n with the other guys. Then I was buying the p*o*r*n magazines myself when I was 25. Then at 30 I discovered the internet and at 32 I started surfing hardcore p*o*r*n sites off and on.

I want to not be so crazy about p*o*r*n. I don't get turned on by any p*o*r*n. It has to be the best p*o*r*n. Now every night I waste hours on the net visiting p*o*r*n erotica story sites.

I am sick of doing this. I hate myself.

With girls I am always gentle. I make friends very easily. But in the last 22 years I have been close only with 4 girls. And never got closer than some fooling around. My last girl friend encouraged me a lot. But I don't get really turned on by s*x. If you are really turned on one should be having more fun I guess. My erection is there. When she was giving me a hand job even though it was hard I didn't get any seminal ejaculation. and there is nothing wrong with her. She has the perfect figure, face etc. I just did not find even those perfect naked b*****s hot enough or as hot as the p*o*r*n stories.

I guess that is why she left me and says now "There was nothing between us"

I hate myself. I feel I am such a creep inside. I don't want to waste time reading p*o*r*n at night. I would rather sleep more.

How can I get rid of this p*o*r*n addiction? Please help by giving useful advice.

Answer 1

I am 23 i also have this "p*orn addiction" but thats just because there is alot of good stuff out there! hah

but more towards fixing your issue,

your whole situation with girls is roughly because you treat them too well... you need to be more yourself with girls. all girls run into guys that want to give them the world, but when the first guy comes around and treats them like a normal person, provides stimulation on her mental level (because you cant do that if you are so infatuated with her), and provides her some sort of confident/funny person to be with then you will have no problem meeting girls or keeping them. (emotions from guys are basically like giving up your relationship because now your on her field of play shes been emotional her whole life she knows it way better than you and can start taking advantage without knowing)

with the hand job...

NO girl gives a good hand job unless shes been in p*orn for YEARS

so basically just play it out and get interested in something else thats not p*orn... start a hobby like cycling... you'll get sick amount of exercise, feel great accomplishment, get around, and be tired enough to sleep whenever you want

Answer 2

how do u get addicted to p**n ? it seems ridiculous ... i m 18 year old ... i watched p**n and liked it wen i was 13 year old lol ... i gained the maturity atleast that s*x is only a mean to pass our generation.. nothing to highlight or exaggerate ... wat stays wid u forever is ur GFZ or partners care love trust affection etc   !

i wud say GROW up ... and u dont get xcited h**l u dont get xcited to see real naked girl but u do wen u watch HARDCORE p**n in ur PC ... theres definitely something wrong with u seriously ... in that case concult with a doctor immediately without further delay !  

Answer 3

You're already halfway to a solution by admitting you have a problem and an addiction.

Talk to a therapist about it. I wouldn't be surprised if there are group sessions for this.