Help me please! 10 points best answer! BRIBING TOO!

Question

How can I get my boyfriend and I to stop fighting? ME and him have something to argue about everyday. I don't know how to make it stop. He's not great at communicating. What's a good way to get a boyfriend to get better communication? i love him with all my heart and will do anything for him, but he doesn't seem the same way back, even though I know he's trying. People can't just transform. But I would like him to get better communication skills. I just need some advice here on how to get him to start conversation. Help?

Answer 1

if you can take the time send him a text.  you can both say what yall want without yelling. this really works and it helps because u can think about what ur going to say and even if its mean it hurts less in writing. u can even say things u might not really want to say to his face just to see if u get an answer.    

Answer 2

Sit him down and say "I really hate all the fights we get in.. it makes me sad.... I think we need to come up with a better way to handle them." So what you can suggest is that

A) when ever your about to have a fight STOP, take like a 5 min break from each ohter and think about how the other person feels in this situation then go back to each other and talk it out more CALMLY. Trust me this helps  i do it with m boy friend and we use to fight all the time... now we harldy do.

B) Tell him that when hes angry or sad or any emotion that he has trouble expressing to at least tell you somthings wrong and if he needs to wait to talk about it thats fine but that you wont think any less of him or that hes any less of a man for expressing his feelings. And even if hes mad you, you want him to tell you but in a calm way.

The hadest thing to do is NOT over react and to actaully share what your feeling... to communicate.

hope this helps! Good luck!

Answer 3

My husband is that way sometimes, I am just honest with him, and I let him know how it makes me feel.  Communication is a major part in any relationship.  He know keeps in mind of my feelings and has been better in communicating.  Good Luck.