Help me please....... i want to make thing right?

Question

ive been with my fella for 5 years now im 21 hes 24 and we have to kids together we were very young parents

we have both done bad things to eachother in the passed and now have trust issuse from cheating how do i fix things and make our relationship better because i do really wanna spend the rest of my life with him

Answer 1

in my opinion , the fact that you have children together is reason enough to work through your personal issues. cheating on your spouse, even though you love him\her indicates that your intimate time has become bland. the chief reason may possibly be that you have become so used to the same routine , that lovemaking now seems to be more like just 'going through the motions' than 'love and emotion'.one way out of this nightmare is to first forgive and forget your past ,and start fresh.here's how...talk with your spouce about "role playing"! as crazy as this may sound now,it can bring the spark back into your marrage.i.e.;pretend you are a single parent at home with the kids. you've met this guy you think is nice enough to invite over.have your spouce change something about himself like, putting on glasses or cutting his hair ect....invite him over to spend the night after thr kids are in the bed. in other words live a 'planned' fantacy out!  

Answer 2

Trust is a hard thing to get back. Take it one day at a time. Maybe talk to each other when things are bothering you. Be open and honest about all the things that each of you are feeling.  

Answer 3

See what cheating does to a person? Trust is a hard thing to regain once you have crossed a line. Talk to each other spend a lot of quality time together. Don't bring up the past and throw your indiscretions in one an others face this will just rekindle the mistrust. Acknowledge each others mistakes and move on.  

Answer 4

it's tough, I know been through it but time does heel and things do get better poviding thats what both of you want. You know everybody is human and make mistakes. Communication is key and do lots of things together, you and him and the kids too. Take up a family sport, get involved but make time for each other and most important of all if and when you get into an argument do not bring up the past it can take weeks for the house to calm down.

You know sometimes its not greener on the other side.

this  opinion is mine from living what you live and I survived just fine.