Help me please!!!?!?

Question

We were celebrating my mom's birthday yesterday and around 2 something everyone was almost about gone. I went inside to change because I was gonna start getting ready for bed. But then my step cousin's husband (around 23 yrs old) walked into my room and was like what are you doing? Obviously he knew I was changing, but thankfully I was done. Then he pulled me into my mom's room and was all up on me and I was nervous and he said 'Why are you nervous, are you scared I might do something to you?' I was nervous, but I was trying to play it off I didn't want to look like fresh bait but then he tried kissing me and making out with me. I told him to stop because someone was going to see us. The real reason was that I didn't want anything to do with that situation. Throughout the night he kept bothering me and I was afraid to go inside by myself. I'm thinking he was just drunk and I even told him but he said 'I was watching you since I got here. Don't tell me you didn't know I like you?'

Btw. He's married and has a baby boy. I haven't told anyone and I don't want advice on how to tell someone, but should I feel bad about what happened? I really do for some reason, and no I didn't want to kiss him.

He also asked me 'Do you feel bad about what happened?' I just said mmm I don't know. What about you.. and he said "No I liked it, it can happen again sometime."

Answer 1

Aw sweetie I'm sorry this happened to you. You could have gotten raped! So many sick guys out there. If your scared to tell your parents, tell someone who you trust and can really talk to about anything. You don't have to feel bad or guilty, this was all the sick guys fault. Make sure your in your comfort zone around him. If you feel scared around him, just try to avoid him at all costs. Who knows what that freak is capable of.

Answer 2

Are you sure you actually want help? How could you not feel bad about what happened. He cheated on his wife with you, who I am assuming is an "adolescent"!

"I just said mmm I don't know." - Doesn't sound like a cry of help to me.

Answer 3

YOu need to tell your parents. This guy sounds sick. Next time he could be more drunk and Rape you. And heavens forbid he could get you pregnant. Imagine how that would go over with everyone else. He is a creep! He needs to be stopped right now before something else happens. He is probably cheating on his wife with other Young women. he sounds like he is a pedophile. If you don't say anything now you are a fool. This is someone that is related to you. it doesn't matter if he is a step cousin or not he is still your cousin that is plane sick. (incest)

Be smart and tell someone now. Before this creep really hurts you or someone else in your family. Imagine you had a younger sister and he was doing this to her? How would you feel then?

Answer 4

Stop being nice. If he tries to kiss you again and you don't want him to, straight out tell him. Don't be afraid of hurting his feelings. Just be like "look, I don't want this, if you stop now I won't tell my cousin but unless you back off I'll have to."

He sounds like a douche.  

Answer 5

you should tell your mom.  she should know how uncomfortable you feel around this guy and keep an eye out for you - like, she could engage him in conversation if it looked like he was going to follow you to your room or something.  or maybe you have a sister who could do this?  someone who won't make too big a deal out of it, if possible.

you should definitely be more assertive in saying to him you didn't like it - it's clearly upset you, and he should know that.

he has a baby and a wife, and if his baby is still quite small, it's possible he's just having trouble adjusting to his new family situation and looking for distractions.  but you deserve better than just to be a distraction!

Answer 6

What he did is called sexual assault. Being drunk is no excuse. You should really tell your parents, but if you don't want to do that, call him and tell him that under no circumstances do you want it to happen again sometime. If he ever does it again you will call the police and press charges. You will also tell his wife.

By asking you if you feel bad, he is either 1) trying to manipulate you into not telling or 2) trying to convince you that it's OK,  or both.  Most men who prey on teens and young girls count on the girls' guilt and/or cooperation.  If you stand up to him, he will stop.  If he doesn't, follow through and report him.

Answer 7

You almost give the impression that you did enjoy it, especially since you want to be so hush hush about it.  The next time he might try to go further.  If he rapes you, will you tell then?

Answer 8

dont let him keep doing this to you. If he doesnt stop you are going to have to tell someone. If he doesn't stop, when he is doing these things to you, hurt him, it will be in self defense. But don't hurt him too bad just let him know that you arent going to let him do stuff with you that you dont want to do.  

Answer 9

Tell your mom.

You shouldn't feel bad at all, it's not your fault.