Help me to re-shape my life?

Question

Im 26, a graduate accountant. But I have no aims, stuck in a boring job with just data entry kinda jobs.

Too scared of applying for a job in a big company. Do not have enough analytical skills (I believe).

No girlfriend. So desparate, and trying on most of the women in the office and getting heartaches when they refuse and start ignoring me.

Can anyone with a kind heart please tell me how I can change my life, and put it back on track as in my university days? I want to be sucesful. Earn heaps of money.

I do study for my CPA exams, but have failed 3 units continously.

Please help me. People (especially women) ignore me like a plague. This really hurts me.

Thank you for reading this useless story.

Have a nice day.

Answer 1

What have you ever done in your life that has made a real impact on you and really made you come alive? This may be a clue as to the kind of job you really need to do or try....

As for women, we can tell if someone has no confidence in themselves and unfortunately that is not s**y....we go for people who have it together, because we can trust them to look after us in some way, if they can look after themselves well first.

Also, I think you may be placing too much value in what everyone else thinks of you , and not come to terms whether you like yourself or not. What anyone else thinks after that is a bonus, and you can let the other stuff glide off your back like water off a ducks back!

I get the distinct feeling you have also swallowed the lie that you are not enough, that you haven't done enough or that you are in some way inadequate. Grow in self esteem, take assertiveness classes and take a good hard look at where you want to see yourself in 5 years time and make small, limited achievable goals to get yourself there.

Another thing, Earning heaps of money isn;t success, being a worthwhile, kind, trustworthy indivivual who cares about the human race and growing in themselves, is success....Women find that s**y.

All the best

Mel

Answer 2

You lack confidence in yourself; ACT confident even if you don't feel it. When I start feeling S****y, I keep a note on my bathroom mirror that says 'you're ok" or "you can do it".   I see it often and it helps.

Apply at the big companies; brush up on interview skills. The internet is full of such tools.  Is it possible you've failed the CPA exam because you are afraid of moving on; I know what that feels like. You're a college grad, be proud of what you have accomplished and what you can be!  Stop trying so hard w/the ladies, believe me, no one wants to date someone who appears desperate. I wish you well.

Answer 3

you are lacking of Confident in yourself, man!

go for some makeover and change your looks and dressing.

join sport clubs or gather up your good buddy friends for drinks or anything.

read more news articles and keep up to date what's happening in the world as a topic for gathering conversation.

good luck and cheerio!

Answer 4

"Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are."

If you change your attitude towards yourself and others, people will change their attitude toward you. Nobody wants to be around someone who pities themselves. And if you are bored with your life why would someone else want to be a part of it? Find something you enjoy: friends, sports, a good cause and focus on that. Adopt a dog if you are lonely. If you hate your job quit. Then you will be forced to apply elsewhere. Or talk to your boss, they may be able to help you take on more responsibilities to gain the skills you think you are lacking. And if you want people to be interested in you, you have to become interested in them first.

Good Luck , it takes courage to change your attitude and outlook on life, but it will all be worth it. :)