Help me understand.?

Question

well, my dads in the hospital, he got into a motorcycle accident on Saturday, and hes in brain intensive care... nuro or something, well the thing is, i've only really cried cause my family did, and i just get scared when he gets aggravated and starts moving around from the pain, [hes in a coma now,] but we never really Had the greatest relationship before, i feel like i should be more sad but i just don't feel that, i feel bad i don't feel bad tho.. if that makes any sense, anyways, whats this about?

Answer 1

As a counselor, I have experience in working on these kind of issues.  What you are feeling could be a reflection of the kind of relationship you have had with him.  It doesn't make it right or wrong, it just is what it is.  No judgment on this.  It is also possible that there is some guilt over not feeling as badly as everyone else, which is also understandable and ok.  Again, no judgment.  The issue now becomes what you do from here and how you resolve this and come to terms with it or if this is something you feel needs resolving.

Answer 2

I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Just because your parents brought you into the world doesn't mean you have to love them as a person.

Me personally, I would kind of be happy if my dad died. I just don't like the kind of person he is, and I wouldn't be sad if anything like that happened.

If you didn't have a strong relationship with your father, don't worry.

Answer 3

  This sounds very much the same as when my dad died.We where never really that close. I did cried a little bit .I guess we really do not want to see our parents suffering knowing the way they way they where.

I hope this answer help a little