Help me with my immature 44 year old boyfriend.....?

Question

Yesterday when I woke up I decided to grab the power bill money that I had put back on my payday and pay it after work. Well, when I reached up on the shelf it was gone. I immediately called my b/f at work. He told me that it had fallen off the shelf and he picked it up and "put it up". I was cool with that but I did tell him to never to take money I have put back and put it in a unknown place. I was just glad that it was not lost. Well we went and had a few drinks and when we got home I asked for the money. He told me don't worry about it, "it's put up" I completely freaked out on him. I was very upset because I felt like he was hiding my own money from me. He refused to produce the cash or even show me where it was. It made me very angry and I really let him know that. He does the most silly little things and I don't understand why. I assured me that he had it and I needed to trust him on this. He told me that he would leave it on the counter for me in the morning ( and he did) but he was not going to give it to me then. What would make a 44 year old man act like this? Did he just want control over the situation? He does things like this quite often. We have been dating for a couple years and he seems to be very secretive about money more than anything. He is about 20 years older than me but he is the irresponsible one out of us. Was I wrong for being upset? I ended up saying sorry and now he is treating me like I should be. He never once has apoligized to me.

Answer 1

Well, I think you were right to be annoyed at him, but I think you should not have given him such a hard time about it. If he had not given you the money than that would be different. I think he just wants to be trusted. I would want to be trusted by my b/f. I mean he needs to be more mature about it. He sounds a bit like my little brother, but he is younger than I am. If he is treating you unfairly dump him and explain why. I think you have a man who loves you and wants you to be able to trust him.

Answer 2

He sounds like an a s s.   Get a real boyfriend that is more mature.   He should have given you your money immediately.   I would never date someone that tries to get inbetween me and my money.  He sounds like he just wants to torture you.   Life is too short and you don't need that kind of bulls h i t.

Answer 3

Sounds to me that he has some issues with wanting to control you.You have no reason to apologize to him as he did hide your money. He had no business doing that.

Answer 4

OMG!  What you straight women put up with in a man.  Dump him!  You can do better or just do without him.  He is belittling you and treating you like a child.  Straight men get away with so much.  Don't put up with that.  

It isn't so bad being without a man.  

Answer 5

Well the truth is the only help would be to find a new one. There just is a part of them that never grows up. So just endure it and start putting your money up in a better place where he isn't going to find it. This way he can't play with you and p**s you off.