Help me with my relationship with my mom???

Question

k so heres my problem...

my mom and i dont exactly have what u call a normal mother daughter relationship. i have never talked to her about anything thats not just like joking around or whats for dinner or what are we doing tonight or complaining about my dad (who i hate). i have never said anything about ever having a boyfriend (which i have had some) or wanting to wear make up or needing to wear a non training bra. i just cant feel like i cant talk to her about anything important. i also have recently started feeling like i cant trust her and that i am nothing like her. plus, i feel like i have to hide all the feelings and act like everything is how it was before. plz help me i cant hate both of my parents!

Answer 1

Definately dont hate both of your parents.  No matter how mad you get at them or how much they appear to get mad at you.  You hold a place in their heart and they love you unconditonally no matter what.  I don't have the greatest relationship with my mother either, but I know that she loves me.  You don't have to have heart to heart conversations with her to have a good relationship with her, the fact that you can laugh together and have fun together is great.  If it is important to you that you can talk to her about boys and things like that, just bring it up.  Just say that you are interested in dating so and so and if she seems interested keep telling her more.  If it's awkward you can drop it right there.  I'm sure if it was something really important, you could tell her about it.  She'll always be there for you.  

Answer 2

cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it

Answer 3

Caitlin that is very sad that you feel abandoned by both of your parents.  But perhaps you could tell your mom how your relationship with her makes you feel, just like you did here.  Hopefully this will open up a more realistic line of communication between the two of you.  Mom may be lacking the skills to do proper parenting and by you bringing this to her attention then it may change things for the better.  Also maybe the two of you would benefit from some form of family or relationship counseling.  You are only given one mother so try and respect her.  Someday you too will be a mom and then it will be easier for you to understand what she is currently feeling.  I am not by any means trying to make any apologies for mom but she definetely sounds like she is trying to be more of a friend to you then a mother.  Best of luck.

Answer 4

talk to your mom tell her that you feel the way you do. if she is a good mom she will understand it may take her a while but she will come around.

Answer 5

No ... do not hate your parents, life is short and keep in mind they are only doing the best they can. No one is perfect and even if they do harm to you, it is essential for you to always have forgiveness in your heart. Always try to think if you were the parent and they were the child and they hated you. You would never want someone to hate you so keep hate out of your mouth and thoughts.