Help me with our family problem Wasn't even invited to Nice's 1st birthday!

Question

My sister-in-law is a princess. She does anything to get attention. My my husband (her brother) and her got in a stupid fight because he could get to her house at 6:00 to help her husband move back in, because he worked till 8:00. Meaningless fight. We went to their mothers to visit and she wouldn't come (lives next door) and wouldn't let us see our only niece. We find out a week later that they had our niece's 1st birthday and didn't tell us. Their mom even lied to us about it. I wish she told us and at least said the sister didn't want to invite us. She told us they didn't have one. They also lied to the entire family that we didn't want to come! Their mom is an enabler BAD. She is our only Niece and the sister is using her as leverage. We wanted to be a part of her life. This really hurt my husbands feelings, like we arnt part of the family anymore. I am more hurt that their mom is siding with the princess and letting this situation get worse. I always thought the mom would keep the family together, but the sneeky lying stuff is pulling everyone apart. The sister is getting a free ride from the parents because they feel bad for her. This family is so one sided. I am an only child and don't know how to deal with this. I don't want to never be a part of the niece's life because her mom is immature. The party to me isnt about the mom, but the baby. A few months ago we were asked to be her guardian if anything happened to them, and now we cant see her? I am tired of this princess c**p and the mom making it worse.

Answer 1

i think youre sister in law is jealous of you.she doesnt want you around maybe because she dosent want the rest of the family to like you.shes poisened their minds behind youre back.be careful with family menbers like that .they can get hold of all sorts of personal facts and lies about you and twist and turn them into massive stories to make others not like you.hold on in there dont over react when told about things she has said.to others.only discuss her with youre partner.remenber shes the one with the problem not  you.

Answer 2

I feel your pain!

Growing up, my mom was the black sheep and fought with all of her family.  For that reason, I never got to know my aunts, uncle, and grandparents till after I moved out of the house.

There's really not much you can do.  You can try things, but ultimately, it's up to your sister and mother-in-law to make the change.  

With that being said...

Write a letter...  Copy both of them on it.  Tell them your feelings.  If you write a letter, they cannot interrupt your thoughts.  Your husband has to be on board here.  Tell the truth as you did here, and tell them how much it hurts.  Pettiness is such a shame!  It's terrible to think that the little girl is caught in the middle of this.  The least her mom can do is be civil enough to let her little girl know her family!

Trust me, from experience, the little girl will be the one suffering from it.

Keep trying, and when all else fails, pray!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Sounds like you can't do anything about it except avoid them. Hopefully the rest of the family knows better. In time they will see it too. Wish it wasn't like this for you.

Answer 4

just  tell  i  hope  get better