Help me with this infatuation !! Im dying !!

Question

I think my case is the worst coz im infatuated with a beautiful n talented film star - "Genelia D'souza" !

It started a week ago when I saw her movie "Jaane Tu..." Her role(character) in the movie struck a chord deep in my heart.

I also read a lot about her and I found that she is 21 (of my age !) and yet so successful already !

Her influence is so high that I cant stop thinking about her at all !

I am aware that she cant be mine but I just cant help it.

Its been 7 days of wierd emotional stress and urge to be with her.

My body shivers ever if I see a photo or a small clipping on TV.

Basic techniques of overcomming do not help. Plz tell me a good way to get rid of this involuntary n unwanted madness....plz plz

Answer 1

You need to remind yourself, and become self aware 24/7, that what you're seeing is an illusion when it comes to this movie mistress. You don't love HER, but you love what the media and the movies have shown to you. You know her merely by looks alone, which makes this a mere attraction issue, not love.

Just remind yourself that she's a product of the mass-media and film industry, probably meaning she didn't have any real career to go to that took any knowledge or intellectual skill. She relys on airbrush and scripts to make her who she is, and probably has a lot of horrible traits of which are not shown on screen or anywhere else. Every pose she makes is what people are telling her to do, and every word you hear her say is staged.

I would also say get out there, and find yourself a real woman. That is a pretty vague and basic to say, but honestly, there isn't much else you can do.  

Answer 2

find a con about her and it will stop

Answer 3

Infatuation is like putting training wheels on a bicycle: we aren't prepared to go at it alone, so we grab onto something to help us develop the confidence and balance to get there.

The most likely cause for your infatuation is twofold: something about her role in the movie made you like her character. In other words, something about her character is something you would find attractive to someone in real life. People who keep dating blondes aren't dating them because they are the best choice, they date them because the person they are looking for, that would make them happy, is very likely blonde and they just don't know who that is yet. That 'strong feeling' is meant to act as a compass, to help guide you in finding that person.

The second reason for the infatuation is that she is the same age as you, and successful. She embodies the kind of life you think you want to have (there is nothing that says she is happy about her life, since many celebrities often hide how terrible they think they feel from the cameras.) Because she does that, her success attracts you to her, and because you aren't old and experienced enough to know the difference, your mind thinks that you are attracted to 'her' instead of what she represents.

Actually, the best way to deal with most obsessions is to take them seriously. If you love peanut butter, then you eat as much of it as you can. By overfeeding your obsession, it will hopefully burn out that much quicker within you, and you can then look at your obsession and see what it was really trying to tell you about their life. So long as you don't devolve into a stalker, thinking the universe is attempting to bring you two lovebirds together in this life or the next, your obsession is pretty normal.

When we don't have anyone in our lives, and so little confidence in our ability to figure out who we are, soemtimes the universe sends us a greeting card of hope. Your obsession is simply about your search for hope, just don't hope Genelia's going to call you collect.