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my son (5yr) has adhd normally he is fine, but has been having a lot more bad days ya know. normally we play and work on school stuff (he has a slight learning disibility)and i know its not his fault but man, its a bad day for him today, and sometimes grr i dont know i just need to know that im not the only one and that everyone else has bad days. what makes it even crudder is its my birthday and hes having a fit because i asked him to pick up his room!

guess i just need some positive words or something

Answer 1

Happy birthday!  Hang in there.  Hopefully your husband or someone has something special in store for you tonight, so that's something to look forward to.  Make arrangements for some alone time this weekend so that you can give yourself a chance to unwind.  

I believe that get no more than we can handle in this life - and that's a compliment to you because obviously you can handle alot  :)  Keep up the good work!

Answer 2

Pick your battles.

Know that every moment in every day does not need to be filled with learning experiences or work.  It's OK to take a day & just do nothing.  In fact, it's actually good for both of you to do that from time to time.

It's your birthday, today - that sounds like a great reason to take a day off.  

Tell him that you've right now decided that, just for today, we'll do nothing that doesn't need to be done.  Then, ask him for a hug.  While you're hugging, let him know that your feelings were hurt when he didn't respect your request for him to do his share in keeping the house nice for everyone.  Ask him to apologize.  

Then, let him know that seeing the mess in his room makes you feel yucky & that, especially today on your birthday, you don't want to feel yucky.  Ask him, again, to spend just a few minutes picking up his room before lunch today, so that the two of you can spend the rest of the day enjoying doing nothing (instead of feeling yucky seeing that mess).  Let him choose when he's going to do it.  Set a timer for him, so he'll know when it's time to start.  

Thank him when he's done.

Then, enjoy the rest of your day, reminding yourself as often as necessary, that today is just a day to connect & relax.