Help my 18 year old cousin just told us she is pregnant

Question

My cousin lives with us because her parents died when she was 15 (we have had custody of her for that long) and she just told my mom she's pregnant (2.5months to be exact). She got sent to her room and my parents are talking about it. I don't know if I should try to comfort her or leave her alone. What should I do? And if I should go in there what should I say?

Answer 1

comfort her, give her support.

Answer 2

she's 18 which makes her a legal adult and she has the right to be pregnant. your parents cant do much about it.

as for comforting her. go knock on her door and ask if you can come in. go sit on her bed and ask if she wants to talk if she says no then just hang out for a few minutes and see if she says anything. if not just be like. well my door is always open if you wanna talk about things. i'm here for you.  

Answer 3

Be there for her! Let her know she is not alone in this because chances are she is scared too. Let her know that she can do this and she will have her family there to help her through. It is going to be hard and she has to be ready for that. Many people have gone through the same thing she is right now and they made it. It is not the end of the world encourage her and talk her into coming up with a plan on how she wants to do it because if she doesn't prepare for it it will be very difficult.

Answer 4

Well, I would talk to her. She's an adult. They can't exactly punish her. But judging by the way it sounds, she depends on your parents. So they can't exactly kick her out either. It's a tough time for everyone. I would go in and tell her everything will work out, and not to be upset (if she is). I would also talk to your parents about it, find out what is going to happen (I don't know if they are mad or not though)

Answer 5

Go and talk to her. Encourage her to talk to you about how she feels and her dreams for the future. Ask her if she's thought about names, whether she's going to breastfeed, whether you can tag along to the midwife/doctor appointments.

Answer 6

She's 18, legally an adult.  Your parents have every right to kick her butt outta there if they want, or else be there for her and let her stay. That's really weird that she got sent to her room...I mean she's an 18 year old....that's pretty jacked up but whatever.

Answer 7

she is an adult but a cousin who is willing to listen to what's in her heart will help her cope.  she does not know at this point what your parents will say.  treat her like you always have.

Answer 8

If she's 18 they can't do anything.

You can try to help her, talk to her and make her not feel so bad, tell her you know how hard it's going to be being preg. so young. She's your family and the right thing to do is to be there for her. But since you are not her, and she is legal that's pretty much the only thing you can do.

Answer 9

your mom and dad cant do anything to her she is 18 which = ADULT just stand by her side she will need a friend right now