Help my 6 year old daughter tested out at a 5th grade level but is also not listening to anyone?

Question

i am the only one she listens to not her teachers.her step dad her coach

her mom can keep her in line like me but is starting to rebel with her mom too her teacher says she has ADD and wants her tested only after one week in her new school

i never have a problem with her just the normal 5 year old brat thing

she is very smart and full of engery thats all and the only time i have seen her out of control is when she has soda which i dont give her.

Answer 1

Ok first of all do not give her an ADD test, they did the same thing to my son he is also gifted.. But he knows he better listen to me or else.. I don't care his gifted, the more people told him how smart he was and how gifted he was, he started acting out.. So I decided to ban the super star treatment, I do not allow anyone to talk about his abilities he is just a normal child.. I myself dont talk about him being gifted, especially when his around.. Don't get me wrong, I encourage my children but I dont give them a big fat head.. Just tell your wife and all around her, to treat her like they would any other child.. Children no matter how smart or slow, always respond better to normality..

Answer 2

I think teachers are way too prone to diagnose kids as having ADD.  

Perhaps your daughter is acting out because she's been given too much responsibility--being 5th grade smart and being 5th grade mature are two completely different things.  or your daughter may not like the new school--or she may just be--well--6 years old! lol.

If she is listening to some adults but not others than she is probably smart enough to know that the adults she doesn't listen to can't impose any consequences that really affect her.  So that probably needs to change somehow.  

ADD / ADHD kids rebel against all adults and are more consistently unmanageable--I think the teacher is overreacting.

I also think the sooner you can get your daughter's behavior under control the better--esp since teacher talk to one another and you don't want your daughter getting a bad reputation or having "possible ADD" put on her transferable school records!

Answer 3

Gifted children are normally mistaken with ADD - I don't know where you live but in my area NJ there are many programs and schools for the gifted child - they really need special learning/teaching- research it in your area there's got to be something Good Luck

Answer 4

I actually babysit a little boy very similar to this.  The parents are going to send him to a school a state over, which is similar to a boarding school but it is for gifted children.  They will keep him in line, because they teach him responsibility and help out with behavior, but also work with their talents and help them really get ahead in life. That is probably the best thing for your 6 year old.  She needs to be put in her place, but also recognized for her brains.