Help my 9 year old son wet the bed?

Question

He hasn't wet the bed since he was 4 and last night was the first time since then. I've looked over all the websites to try and find and answer to this so that hopefully I could stop it before it became a habit. he was bullied very bad by his uncle on sunday and his uncle embarrassed him by telling the other kids to look at the tittie baby. well everyone else was telling him to get off my son because he had him pinned on the ground with his knee in my sons chest. He wouldn't listen and my husband wouldn't say anything to his bro so I had to and it led to a big argument and I had to make my bro-in-law leave my house. My husband is taking his bro's side instead of taking up for my son which is leading to alot of problems with us. Anyway, could my son getting picked on and humiliated like that make him all of a sudden wet the bed?

Answer 1

That's true...emotional distress can trigger this problem...you may change the activities of your kid, like: avoiding stressful activities late in the afternoon; less fluid consumption/intake from late afternoon till evening...most importantly, give all emotional/psychological support to your kid...

Answer 2

Yes, I was like that too because my parents fought all the time and I stopped after they got divorced.  But if he continues to wet the bed you can try an alarm.  You put it in the underwear or diaper and when he pees the alarm goes off. This is what helped me the most and I stopped within a week or two.  Here is the link: http://bedwettingstore.com/category_alar...

Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

Stress can manifest its self in bed wetting. It could also be that your son had to much caffeine( a diuretic) or was extremely tired and didn't wake to go to the bathroom.

Don't make an issue out of the bed wetting yet.  If it was a one night thing making an issue could only solidify in his mind that he is a "titty  baby"( what a jerk)  and contribute to his anxiety and exacerbate the problem. They may be separate issues. See if he continues to have accidents, then if he does clear out the possibility of medical issues, sleep disorders or fatigue.  As for his uncle, talk to your son about his inappropriate behavior but don't harp.  It will only make your son feel victimized again.  Avoid situations involving his uncle, if you cant, then keep a close eye on him when he with his uncle to prevent a situation that can get out of control.

Once all the possibilities are handled,ns medical problems are ruled out, if your son continues to have accidents, set your son aside and talk with him discreetly about the use of pull ups and supply them for him in one of his drawers.  If he is uncomfortable about these buy a mattress  protector and supply your son with extra sheets in his room so that he can change his sheets as needed.  NEVER make an issue out of it. Teach him discreetly clean himself up and change his sheets. He needs to have a sense of control over this uncontollable and potentially embarrasing situation.

I am so sorry.  I know how hard it is to deal with afamily member who is a bully.  It's not fun unless EVERYONE is having fun.  My children understand this concept, it s a shame a grown man can't.

Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 4

Your brother in law sounds like a piece of work. He should be arrested for man handling a child like that. This whole thing could certainly have caused the bed wetting. Keep him away from the uncle and your husband's attitutude is certainly strange. What kind of family would condone this traumatic treatment of a child? Your son will probably never get over this.

Answer 5

Generally it means he's been sexually abused.  They can give you a prescription to help

Answer 6

Don't panic.  Sounds like you answered your own question.  The young man probably had a bad dream about the uncle.  You are right he is to young to have his uncle sitting on his chest.  Your husband should be telling his brother to leave his kids alone.  Sounds like the brother-in-law has a bully issue and maybe your husband feels intimidated by him from when they were kids.  If your child's situation continues you can buy pads that goes under the sheets that would soak up the problem.  That's what we used for or grandson.  Nursing homes uses them.  My daughter got a couple while she was there.  Its not your sons fault, its your husbands for not sticking up for his child.  I would never let my brother let alone anyone else do that to a nine year old!!  Stick to your guns.  Your child comes first.  GOOD LUCK.  Oh, and as mentioned by a earlier answer it don't mean sexual abuse, its just stress!!!!

Answer 7

A situation like this could definitely affect your son. I would never let your  brother in law be near your son ever again and for that matter your husband needs to take a good hard look at himself too. Your brother in law should be charged with assault.

Answer 8

I hope your husband reads all these replies! How can he let his bro humiliate his own flesh & blood and how can he be so cold about it? Do you think maybe his bro used to bully your husband and he won't stand up to him? If I were in your position I would've done the same...AND I WOULD HAVE PINNED HIS BROTHER DOWN LIKE HE DID TO YOUR SON! Good for you for standing up to both his bro and your hubby! I'm not the type of mom that creates "momma's boys" (I have two boys, 9 & 11) and I know that they can get carried away playing too rough....but come on...bullying is NOT ACCEPTABLE!

Answer 9

I think what's going on in your 9 year olds mind is more important than the bed wetting right now. If he is feeling insecure than by all means the bed wetting could be an effect. Your husband needs to support this child and encourage him, lift him up. If this is suppose to be a role model than he needs to take this role seriously. I can not imagine my husband criticizing me for standing up for our son. You need to talk to him about what he is feeling and thinking and explain that a grown up is wrong in this case and that your son is okay and you are there to protect him. You have every right to stand up for the chilld. You are doing the right thing!

Answer 10

yes it could, it could also make him stop.  First of all his uncle is a ******* jackass who deserves multiple pine cones up his ***...and ur husband...well for your sake I won't say anything.  Anyways I use to wet the bed when I was a kid...not fun times...my step-mom tried the embarrassment approach and it didn't work I still did it...but I was on a regular basis, if your son did it just this one time in a long time, then it could've been just an accident that won't happen frequently.  So I'd keep an eye on the situation...but embarrassment isn't the answer in my book.