Help- my fiance saw pics of me in my wedding dress. Does it matter? I am freaking out.

Question

I got so excited after shopping one day that I showed my fiance pics of all the dresses I tried on. (Stupid I know, but I was just so excited about my day!)

Now I have pretty much decided that "the one" is from that batch of pics he saw , meaning my fiance has seen it.

Do you think he will remember and be disappointed? Should I find another dress?

He did comment and said he really liked that one, but do they all look the same to guys until they see us in our dress walking down the aisle?

The wedding is not until next June. Do you even think he will remember?

I swore I would not show him any shopping pics until after the wedding...but I love sharing with him. One friend commented that I was going to ruin it for him and it should be a total secret- Did I blow it?

Answer 1

You will be so dolled up your wedding day he won't even be looking at your dress!! =)

Guys don't pay much attention to dresses anyhow, it will look completely different to him when he see's it on your wedding day. Don't worry. If its the dress you are completely in love with, don't worry about it!

Answer 2

Relax and come down off the ledge.

The bad luck thing is just a bunch of hooey.  And, chances are he won't remember anyhow.

It'll be fine.

Answer 3

Does it really matter to anyone? It's an old tradition. My fiancee hasn't shown me her dress either and she probably won't until the wedding day. Until she's in it, it's just a dress. She is what makes it so special. I am anxiously waiting to see her in it. If she showed me pictures of it, that would be Ok.  

Answer 4

I helped my fiance pick out and get dressed in hers.  It won't matter if he remembers or not

Answer 5

So who cares?

My SO knows the design of the dress and has seen the fabric. He loves it.

We are sharing our lives and I really don't see why I should keep this from him.

PS I am NOT superstitious at all, so none of this bad luck stuff is bothering me

Answer 6

He will totally not remember, especially since he saw pics of you in more than one dress...Don't even sweat it. You know how men are with womens clothes, especially dresses, they all look the same to them until they see you in them in person.  

Answer 7

LOL....pretty much the same thing happened to me at my first wedding.  I had shown him some pictures of dresses I tried on.  He indicated he really liked one of them, and it was the one I had picked.  At the wedding...when I was wearing the dress that he said he liked most before..he says..."I really love the dress...its so much better than the one you showed me in the picture"...

Answer 8

i showed my husband mine when i was looking.  after we got married i was like so did you remember my dress from the picture and he was like oh yeah i forgot about that wait .... thats the same dress.  and i was just like really come on now lol.   men ha

Answer 9

Honey it's a dress... My fiance has seen every dress picture I've ever looked at! It's ok don't worry about it.

Answer 10

The whole idea that a man shouldn't see the wedding dress until the bride walks down the aisle is just a carry over from times past when women and men often didn't even see each other until the wedding day.  These days, women are more sensible, some make love before the wedding, some live with their fiances and leave from the same home to go to the wedding, etc.  Not only did my husband see my wedding dress, he helped me shop for the material to make it, and picked out the buttons I put on the cuffs, the ribbon for the vest, and the length of the dress.  I picked out what he would wear ... a leather vest and pair of khaki pants with a buttoned long sleeve shirt.  We are together 'forever and beyond' and are even happier now, as we approach our 12th anniversary than we were as we got ready for our wedding.  The 'secret of the wedding dress' is probably something that should be abandoned as we learn that it's much better to know as much about your future partner, in everything big and small ... and though many mothers of brides will say that is 'hooey' (I am a mother, and have dealt with a bride on her wedding day), I think it's just good sense.  So your fiance knows what your dress looks like.  He won't be looking at the dress, but at the person wearing it, and on that day the love in his eyes will all be fastened onto your eyes ... you could be wearing a burlap bag, and still be the 'most beautiful woman in the world' to him.  No, you didn't 'blow it' ... he won't be disappointed at all, because if you love to 'share' with him now, he'll know that it will be easier to share when you are married.  Good luck and God bless you with grace on your wedding day ... and have an extremely happy married life.  

Answer 11

I think it is ok. Especially since  you showed him pics of ALL the dresses you tried on. So although he's seen them he doesn't know which one is your dress. You'll be fine :)

Answer 12

he likely will forget, besides he dont know which one you picked

this just old supersition, i am going to marry in a dress i already own cause it makes me look good and it was expensive, my bf both seen pics of it, and seen me in it...and he knows i intend to marry in it (a descision taken long before we got togheter)...and fully understand and respect my choise and my reasons.

Answer 13

If you showed him a whole batch of pictures, you technically didn't even show THE dress to him, you just showed him a bunch of dresses. Plus, by the time your wedding comes I doubt he'll remember it anyway. Good Luck, Have Fun! <3

Answer 14

A picture will NEVER compare to the real thing so relax!

Answer 15

No I did the same thing he doesn't know which dress you are buying so he will still shed a tear when you walk down the aisle.

Answer 16

Relax, take a deep breath. Roll your eyes at the friend who made the very tacky comment about ruining it for him.

You did not blow it. And he is right... all bridal gowns look pretty much the same to guys, especially in pictures. He will not remember next week that he even looked a pictures of gowns unless you remind him!

Here's the game plan from this point forward: do NOT talk about your dress when he's around. If he should happen to ask (and chances are he won't) which dress you decided on, tell him it's a surprise and drop the subject.

And he is right on another point... the only time he's going to focus on that dress is when you walk down the aisle and more than likely, it won't be the DRESS, but you.

So take heart... you did not blow anything. He won't remember and he won't care until next June. And he will be bowled over by you and your gown on your wedding day.

Deep breath. It's fine. :-)

Answer 17

I really wouldnt worry about it. If its the dress you love, get it. He'll be happy to see you in whatever dress you choose.

Answer 18

He will not remember what it looks like.  I remember a commercial one time where a girl held up three totally different black heels and asked the guy which one he liked.  Then it showed it from the guys point of view which was three plain shoes that looked exactly the same.  It showed him struggling which one to pick because even though he thought they all looked the same, he was worried he would pick the wrong one.  It was funny commercial.  So, in other words.  He will still be surprised when he sees you in it.  Even if he may remember a small detail or two about the dress, he won't be able to picture the whole package of dress, veil, shoes, flowers, hairdo, etc.  Your friend is wrong.  Nothing is ruined.  It would only be ruined if you tried everything on for him at the same time.

Answer 19

I honestly don't think that he will mind.  He probably won't even be able to recognize the dress since most of the time you can't see the detail on a picture.  He's not marrying you to see you in a dress he's never seen before, I'm sure he'll be excited and nervous about the wedding to even notice what dress you are wearing.  

Congrats and good luck!!

Answer 20

Nope, you are cool. The bad luck comes if he sees you in the dress on the day of the wedding. He just saw a picture, way before the wedding.

And anyway, most men do not have a clue about wedding dresses, one will look pretty much the same as another, doubtful he will remember. And anyway, most men care about one thing about any dress: how low is the cleavage?

Congrats!

Answer 21

He won't remember.  He is a straight guy -- if he remembers a picture at all a year from now, it will be a vague, hazy memory of you and a bunch of white fabric.  He's not obsessing about this, nor should you be.

Besides -- it's only bad luck for the groom to see your dress if you're marrying a guy who doesn't love you.