Help..my kids' babysitter lately seems to not really care about watching my kids...?

Question

she has been sitting for my kids for 5 years already and she just doesnt seem to care too much about their well being. she wont hurt them...but money is an issue right now and she's demanding for me to pay her more because,and i quote her,

" well, you need to pay me more because i'm with YOUR kids all day and your not" its just annoying. she's not a kid either. she's my best friends mom. i've known her since i was 16. its just seems she's more worried about the money then my kids..any suggestions....

Answer 1

I think that when it comes to children there well-being is MOST important...so if feel that this isnt the priority of your babysitter then its really time too look elsewhere...as other friends if they can watch your children! Maybe friends who have children already-then you can say you'd return the favour and look after their kids sometimes!

If she's that worried about money then she wont want to loose this job-figure out how much you can afford to pay her and then say to her this is how much I can pay you...take it or leave it! Maybe she doesnt realise how she is coming across!!!

Also try looking into services available in your area---church support (if appropriate to you), state/council support, your employer etc.

Answer 2

I would find another babysister who is more qualified and actually does not mind babysiting. If she does not pay attention to them they could get hurt...

Answer 3

try applying for CCAP (child care assistance program) they will pay a sitter or a daycare

Answer 4

i think she deserves a raise after sitting your kids 4 5 years.....u cant place a price on ur kids safety

Answer 5

That's because she *is* more worried about the money, apparently... She's not related to them, and doesn't have the bond that a relative would (hopefully) have... So, if you try to lay a guilt trip on her, by saying that she 'doesn't seem to care too much about their well-being,' well, it won't work.

This is an easy one: if you can't afford to pay her what she's asking for, you need to find another sitter.

Answer 6

that's not a valid reason for you to pay her more, that was just an excuse for her to be rude to your face.

I'd look for someone younger.  They're often better at playing with kids because it's still fun for them, too (whether they'll admit it or not).  Also, someone new wouldn't think they deserved a "raise."

Answer 7

Well id say you have a couple of choices. Sounds like you have a relationship beyond just babysitting. I hope that its not effected bt this babsitting situation. Ok first idea,  you can always sit down with your babysiiter and discuss how much you are able to pay her. If she is un-cooperative, then your 2nd option is to find another babysitter that you can afford.

Answer 8

DO NOT knock the idea of finding another sitter just because someone you know well is watching your kids.  After my mother in law decided to go back to work full time I was scared to death to find someone else to watch my 2 girls.  I found a great home family daycare and I and my kids love her to death.  My daughter has become friends with the sitter's daughter too.  I think your sitter's comment was uncalled for.  However, just because she said that doesn't mean she doesn't care about your kids.  The important thing is if your kids seem ok with her.   She may have had a rough day and was crabby and just blurted that out.  She probably needs the money and maybe felt weird bringing it up.

Answer 9

i would take my kids somewhere else. where they will be around other children and adults who interact with them.

daycares and people who babysit in their home are not always awful. you just need to search around. i would never send my child somewhere that the person caring for them only cares about the money.

Answer 10

Oh, my word, what a SHREW. Get a new sitter, pronto. Preferably an early-education major. They need the money and love kids, anyway.

Answer 11

If it were me, I'd start looking for a new sitter asap.  Why would you want to keep on a sitter that doesn't care for your children's well being?  There are websites like sittercity.com that you can look into and check references.  Good luck!

Answer 12

Have you considered finding another babysitter?

Answer 13

Go with your gut feeling that tells you this is not working out any longer. Some times people lose their compassion and see the kids as just what brings in money. Check into any state or county services that assist with the cost of childcare. In Florida, we have coordinated child care-it's the only way I survived as a single mom when my kids were young! Relying on family SUX and they always seem to think they have something over you-time to replan!

Answer 14

find a new sitter, talk to your friend tell her you are not doing it because of the money but because of the well being of your children. i know if anyone i was leaving my son with during the day threatened (because i do consider that a threat) i would find someone else asap