Help my little girl is almost 3 need advice on how to get her to go potty without complaining.?

Question

She will go occasonally but throws a tantrum about it also she refuses to tell me when she has to go. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!! i WANT HER TO GO TO PRESCHOOL IN 08

Answer 1

What worked for me with my daughter was this: we went shopping together, and I got her all excited about buying a squishy toilet seat for toddlers and an egg timer.

Then we got home and made a game out of setting the timer to 15 minutes and running to the bathroom to go potty (every 15 mins!). It got her completely trained within 3 days!

Answer 2

my daughter is almost 4 now and has been potty trained for a long time and just recently started having accidents again and having tantrums when it was time to use the potty. finally i realized that she was terrified that if she walked away from her toy to use the bathroom her sister would swoop in like a vulture and take the toy! haha. once i realized this was the problem i made a rule in my house that if you walk away from a toy to use the bathroom, it's still your toy when you get back, there's no stealing. once she was assured that it was "safe" to take a bathroom break from playing, the accidents went away and so did the tantrums. try to listen to your little girl and see if there's some real reason why she doesn't want to go to the bathroom. you might be surprised at what she'll tell you. maybe something you never even thought of is bothering her. good luck!

Answer 3

dont make her...that is the first step. You have a whle year to get her to use the potty if you try to make her she will refuse even more. What I did with mydaughter when I got her potty trained she is 4 now but she was 2 when I got her potty trained. I would take her in the bath room everytime that I had to go so she could hear me go and she thought it was a game. So after I was done I told her to try to make the sounds that mommy did and one week later she was using the potty. But we did have a problem with her b/m she would not go to save her life on the potty. So one day my mom came over and said that little girls that dont use the potty cant stay the night at my house and ever since then she has used the potty just find. We have never had an accident nothing. So tell her your not going to go some where that she really like that only big girls who use the potty all the time can go. And that just might be the help that she need. So the best of luck.

Answer 4

Stop worrying!! She will do it when she is ready. Take a break from it for a couple of weeks , Put her back into nappies, encourage her to sit on the potty if she will do so without a fight but otherwise forget it. Children use toilet as a manipulative tool and she will be feeding off of your anxiety. There is a wide variation in the age at which children are ready to be toilet trained. some may do it over a period of a few days some may take a lot longer. They will be dry in the day well before they are dry at night. Is your little one indicating that she is ready by having occasionally dry nappies and showing signs of awareness and /or discomfort when she wets or soils?

Trainer pants can be helpful for the first week or so. Let her come to buy them with you. Or pretty pants!

Start the training at a time when you are not feeling too stressed yourself. Be laid back about it and give lots of praise and encouragement when she does 'perform'. If she has an accident just change her with a 'whoops! oh dear!' sort of attitude. Star charts can be a really useful tool at this time. She could have a tick or a star for every time she sits on the pot, the same for a dry nappy or pants and a gold star for every time she 'performs'.Give her a treat for a set number of stars. Tell her what it is so that she has an achievable goal. If problems persist for more than a few months it may be worth   checking with you GP that there is nothing physically wrong. Be cool and just ignore any tantrums.

Good Luck

Answer 5

How long does she stay dry before she wets?  What kind of underwear is she using?  Take her shopping for "big girl panties" and when you get home, put them on her.  Tell her "Now, don't forget you have on big girl panties today.  You don't want to wet them!"  Take her to the potty every hour and a half, after her nap, after meals, and after vigorous play.  If she throws a tantrum, just stand there and ignore it.  When she starts to wind down, take her to the bathroom and ask her if she can do it herself or does she need your help?  If she refuses, help her pull down her pants and sit on the toilet.  You can tell her "This is not a choice thing.  It's time to go potty.  If you don't want to do it yourself, I will need to help you."  Be patient and calm, but firm.  It may take a few accidents, but she will catch on very quickly.  Being wet in big girl panties is not fun.  It's so much easier to just go when you need to!  

Hang in there mom.  Persistence and patience will pay off!

Answer 6

It is very bad for a child's psychological health to set up a "strict standard" for potty use. Make the child feel comfortable about what she does, and you will see a difference in her. What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with benefits, even the God of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. Peace, Love and God Bless.

Answer 7

I'm really worried about the pressure parents will place on their children about this issue. There is no right or wrong time for children to be potty trained. I have three - now young adults - that potty trained at completly different ages and ways. One was 2, one was 3 and the last one even was 3.5!

In this day and age of Pull-ups, you can send a child to preschool that is not completley potty trained. I see that all the time where I work. Being with other children of the same age, that use the potty has so far inspired everyone else faster and better than it could've happened at home! :-)

My advice - back off, don't force her, she's in control of her bladder! And then pick one day every other week, to see if she's ready to be a big girl. And if not, with no negative comments, put her back in diapers. One day she'll surprise you and be ready. :-)

Answer 8

For both of my children, I used a sticker chart.  It started by getting a sticker for using the potty.  After 5 stickers they got a small prize (something cheap).  Once they got the idea of this reward system, we would switch to a "staying dry" chart instead of "using the potty.  They really enjoyed seeing their progress on the wall.  Also, they were able to choose something special to do with me once they filled the charts with stickers.  This gave them great incentive to do their best and was actually a fun way to train themselves.  Kids like choosing their own reward.

FYI - I also used this same method with other issues (bedtime, etc.)

Answer 9

There is a book called "Toilet training in less than a day."  I used it to train my two kids and most of my nieces and nephews.  The basis of the book is to have your child teach his/her favorite doll, stuffed animal or super hero how to use the potty.  Take your child into the bathroom.  Hold a hidden soaked washcloth behind the doll and place it on the potty.  Also have your child's favorite treat in eyesight on the vanity.  Tell your child to ask the doll to go potty in the toilet or on the potty and the doll will get his/her favorite treat.  When your child repeats what you said,  secretly wring out the washcloth into the potty.  Tell your child to praise the doll for going potty like a big girl/boy and have your child give the doll a treat.  Also give the child a treat.  Have your child tell the doll that every time he/she goes potty in the toilet/potty, he/she will get another treat.  Have your child explain to the doll why big boys and girls go on the potty.  Every time the doll or your child goes on the potty, sing and dance together.  Make up a fun song to sing every time one goes potty.  The book is very detailed and has worked for me every time.

Answer 10

She will do it when she is ready.  You can't rush them!  My son is 2 years 9 months and has been using the toilet for months, but I still cant take him out without a nappy because he forgets and wets himself.  When he is ready he will let me know.  Good luck