Help! my mum won't clean the house.?

Question

My mum NEVER cleans the house and i only clean the house once in a while i am 14 for god's sake no age for being a butler for my mum.

bug's roam the kitchen carpet, grim all over the cooker and spiders and webs lay under cabinets and other furniture and that is only some of the things which lurk my house.

Answer 1

To tell you the truth, if you have a problem with it, do it yourself. She's not going to change. Take some responsibility. It only takes maybe twenty minutes a day, an hour on weekends. Just tidy up.

Answer 2

hello,

Maybe your Mum is ill or has things on her mind that she doesn't want to bother you with. The best thing to do is to talk to her about it and to just keep things ticking over until then.  If you do a big clean, then after that it will only take a few minutes each day for you both to tidy up.  If there's anything else lurking eg. cockroaches or mice then pest contol will have to be called in - or better still, remove all temptation for them. She's been a maid for you for 14 years, maybe it's time for you to help a little bit and talk to her.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Have you tried talking to your mom? A lot of times when people live like that it can be a sign of an underlying problem(s). Maybe she is depressed? lonely? overwhelmed? Only thing I can say is talk to her. Tell her how it affects you and see if you can work together to get the house clean. Maybe she could get some counseling or something. Best thing to do is at least talk about it.  

Answer 4

So sorry you have to deal with this at your age.  Obviously your mom has some emotional issues and is depressed.  

Start throwing stuff away.  Old magazines and newspapers, junk mail (anything that is not an actual "bill").  Any stuff that's been laying around for more than a year and not touched/used.  She'll probably never miss anything.  Once you have most of the clutter gone, you can try to really clean like vacuuming the floors and clean up the kitchen.  In fact, do the kitchen now first.  Sounds like a real job.  When you're done, you could probably get a good job working for some realty companies cleaning up abandoned houses that were foreclosed on.  They make some goooood money. (Note:  take before and after pics.)  Good luck.  

Answer 5

So sorry you have to live like that.  Actually sweetie, you're the only one the mess is bothering, so you're actually cleaning for yourself.  If your mum has let it get to that bad of a situation with bugs and all, she doesn't care if its dirty.  I'd go get the vacuum and start going around the house vacuuming everything!  Use that little angle tool that attaches to the hose to get along the baseboards and under the cabinets.  Before you do that, spray the cooker with a cleaner and let it set there and dissolve the grease.  When you get done vacuuming, wipe the cleaner off.  It will make a huge difference.  If you sit down and look at the room and figure out where the best place to start on it will be, it will make the job easier.  It really doesn't take long if you have a plan.  Honest!  If you just wipe things up when they get dirty, the house will stay clean....and you can be proud of yourself for getting it that way and keeping it that way.  Your mom may be feeling overwhelmed right now, and maybe a little depressed.  You would be helping her out by just getting the place cleaned up.  Who knows.  Once she sees how you've cleaned it, she may pitch in and help keep it that way.  After you clean it, sit down and talk with her, and ask her if she would be willing to help you out.  Good luck!  You sound like a son she should be proud of.

Answer 6

That is terrible.  Consider suggesting that you make a family chore list.  Is there a father you could live with.  At fourteen, I heard somewhere that you are of legal age to decide your residence.  Check it out.  I am so sorry.