Help my ten yr old is been caught attempting to smoke twice?

Question

i disciplined her the first time severly....now she was caught again but threw the butt away still lit in the garbage can...almost causin a fire....help plz and dont be rude i am really at a loss here

Answer 1

Haha okay this seems a little drastic buuuuuuuut my friends dad told her if she ever wanted to try smoking that she could tell him she wanted to and then she had to smoke 12 cigarettes (1/2 a pack) in front of him in 25 mins or less.  Well she did and to this day (about 8 years later) even the smell of cigarettes makes her feel sick!  Although I don't advise you do this I just thought it was a funny story that suited the question.  I think you should sit her down and have a serious talk with her about it, ask her why she wants to smoke and where she got the idea from.  Show her gross pictures of peoples brains, and lungs from smoking and explain to her that it will kill her.

Answer 2

I feel so bad for you. I am 30 and want to stop so bad. If my parents would have shown me pictures of lungs of a smoker when I was her age I would not be smoking now IT IS HORRIBLE! Go on line and look for pictures of smokers lungs, Then look up all the chemicals that are in cigs and show then to her. You need to scare her while she is young enough. My cousin got me started and she does not smoke now and this sounds awful but my uncle locked her and her sister in a closet and made them smoke a pack a piece until they threw up. Needless to say she never touched another cig. That sounds awful like I said but she will live a whole lot longer than me If I don't stop. Good luck and if you want me to write her and tell her how hard it is to breathe now after smoking for 15 yrs I will be happy to help. Just research on line though and take her to a hospital and let her see people dieing of lung cancer. Scare her please. Alisha

Answer 3

make her smoke a big fat cigar. and i started to when i was at that age. my parents caught me and grounded me to the kitchen table where i could be watch every minute. but then like the next year i moved and started again only this time i didn't get caught but then i did. my dad made me smoke one of those fat cigars and my face turned green and i was going to throw up. i still ended up smoking and didn't quit till last october im 18 now. my parents aloud me to but i had to pay for my own and could only smoke in front of them so i obeyed by there rules.

Answer 4

were did she get the idea to smoke

where did she get the cigarettes

where did she get the lighter

Answer 5

Well, hon, the good thing about a 10 year old and smoking cigarettes is that they can't possibly AFFORD the habit at the cost of cigarettes today.  They are also too young to work, so no income no cigarettes.

And if your daughter obtained the cigarettes from your pack, maybe your influence is what has tempted the 10 year old to smoke in the first place.

If you smoke, and punish your child severely for doing the same thing, i'd say you're a hypocrite...

Answer 6

"i disciplined her the first time severely"... I'm guessing you mean that you *punished* her the first time severly.  Discipline is usually never severe.  Don't punish her.  Teach her.  Discipline her by teaching her why she shouldn't smoke, what the results are, and involving her in something proactive to resolve the problem.

You might think that she already knows why she shouldn't smoke, but she probably doesn't.  Arrange to meet with someone who has emphysema or lung cancer, or both.  Taker her to listen to their stories, the problems they have, and to ask them questions.  Also arrange to take her to talk with a nurse or a doctor about the problems that smoking causes and what his/her experiences have been.  You're wanting to teach your daughter the reasons that she shouldn't smoke.  Just that's it's wrong or gross or what adults do isn't good enough.  She needs to see the results of smoking and needs to see those as things she wants to avoid.

Then involve her in doing something to resolve the problem.  She could write a letter to herself in 8 years telling herself why she shouldn't smoke and what she wants to do with her life.  She could write a letter to someone else explaining what she learned.  You could help her make a presentation to give to her brothers and sisters, cousins, friends, or really anyone about the dangers of smoking and the harm that it can cause.  The point here is to help her do something with what she learned so that she retains the information and feels like she is doing something important.

How did she get the cigerets in the first place?

Answer 7

You got to ask yourself this question do you smoke? If so, how can you tell your child not to smoke if you do? You must be your child's role model.

I would tell my child that he/she is a child and cannot make adult desisions yet until he or she is 18 years old and they cannot smoke because it is aginst your house rules.

Answer 8

Sit her down and ask her why and where she learned to smoke. Ask her why she thinks smokeing is a good idea, Do you smoke? She might think its grown up to do that, show her some of the bad things that can happen to your lungs if you smoke, also ask her where she got the cigerettes thats why I asked if you smoked why does she have acess to smokeing material? Keep cigars, lighters, Matches, cigeretts away from her!

Answer 9

Buy a pack of camel unfiltered cigarettes. Sit her down, preferably outside, and light the first one for her. Make her smoke it. As soon as it burns out, hand her another one. And then another one. Make sure she breathes in as deep as she can.

She won't make it past/thru the first cigarette, and I can almost guarantee she will never try to smoke again. (You'll want to do this outside, since there's a good chance it will make her puke)

Let her taste how nasty that is - she'll get over ever wanting to try again.

Answer 10

well dont let her go anywhere

and talk to her about it

seriously

Answer 11

i smoked for the first time when i was 12 and it is very addictive. (i quit)

all i can tell you is STOP HER NOW!!!

Answer 12

Is she smoking by herself or with friends?  If she's with friends, then you need to curtail the friendship.

Do you smoke?  If so, then you know what you need to do!

Then, sit her down and have a heart to heart with her.  Ask her why she wants to smoke.  Don't make her defensive and yell at her or lecture her, but try to find out what she is trying to get out of smoking.  Is she trying to be older, cooler, be like someone or is she just curious?

My 15 year old tried it a couple years ago because her friends were doing it and convinced her to try it.  She did it for about 2 weeks, decided it was stupid and then told me about it.

Peer pressure is horrible.  She might just be trying to fit it with someone she likes.

TALK to her openly and honestly, without yelling.  Then you can work on whatever you find out.

Good luck

Answer 13

If she's doing it experimentally, the best you can do is punish her and make it clear that she is not to do it again. Unfortunately, preteens can become addicted to smoking even without smoking daily. If that has happened to your daughter, and the fact that she ignored your previous punishment suggests that it may have, you will not be able to force her to stop: you'll merely teach her to do it out of your sight. Draconian punishments are counterproductive at that point. You will have to accept what has happened and try to encourage her to quit.