Help need advice on a relationship with a female?

Question

Hi i have a girlfriend I really love her alot, but I am married we really love each other and want to be together. She is also married with children(2) we just saw Ellen and Portia wedding info it was so beautiful I never thought I would feel the way I do about a woman she is caring,warm ,smart, s**y, loving,patient and protective just what i want in a man. she has this masqueline appeal to her it is so s**y she looks so intimate she makes me *** and aall she is terrific she is a dream but she is a woman. We have been talking leaving and starting together but is it stupid I feel this way what can we do and it has only been (2) months what about a year from now. Help I love her really I need some outlook.

Answer 1

You seem more in love with the ideal image of what a relationship with her could be than you actually are with her.  NOT TO MENTION she has a life that I doubt she wants to leave to maybe find happiness elsewhere!  Seems like you need to date another woman first...figure out what you are really looking for  before you break up a home!  

Answer 2

I think that you need to sit down with her and talk to her about your feelings. If she feels the same way, than you two need to decide what is more important. Don't forget that your husband loves you, and choose to spend the rest of his life with you. He is going to be torn by this whole thing and you're going to break his heart. Yet, if it makes you happy, and you are a hundred percent sure that is what you want, than I am sure that he will learn to accept it.

I also need to point out, that it would be very hard on this womens children, and she needs to take that into consideration before anything.  

Answer 3

tell her this

Answer 4

As a divorced and re-married man with experience with this issue I will try and help.My first wife had the same thing happen with her while we were married.We loved each other very much but her and her best friend ended up loving each other.When It came to my attention I really wanted to understand.I came to the conclussion that unfortunately there are just some things almost all emotionally that a woman can connect with a woman on.I allowed my wife to have time with her girlfriend and her girlfriend would be at our house alot.No I was'nt in it for the 3 some action because it was'nt like that.It actually improved my and my wifes relationship 10 fold.The attitude my wife had when she told me about it was that She Was Not Leaving Me.She just had feeling for her friend but there was no way she would ever leave me.I think my understanding made her love me even more.How don't know how open your husband would be but who knows.My divorce was nt because of this it was other stuff.I will tell you we stayed married another 7 years after this and my wife and her friend ended their relationship about 4 monyhs later.Her friend left her husband to be with a woman full time.I can also say that her husband was not understanding at all of his wife and my wife.I hope this helps some.

Answer 5

whatever - yhea ok - you got it this far - now the two of you hook it on up with a man! Bring it home all the way baby!!!!! We love ya'  

Answer 6

I think you both need to go to marriage counseling - with your OWN spouses.  You are in committed relationships; and you need to do everything in your power to make those relationships work, especially with children involved.  Take a nice long break from each other and try to fix the marriages you already have; because my guess would be, in another year, you and she will probably not feel the same way.

Answer 7

Don't jump into it yet, have some fun with it and spend time together and see how you feel down the track.  

Answer 8

You must be honest with yourself, and your family. That is your first priority. Secondly, you must think of the mass effect of your decisions. This will affect your children more than anything.  

Answer 9

i`m not trying to be rude but you can find a man that has all of that going on for them. But also you married that man so maybe you should divorce him or talk to him because 1st of all that is wrong to be with another woman and second of all you are married.

Hope you take these words into consideration.