Help on explaining things to my little girl!?

Question

I have a 7 year old daughter and a 3 year old son and lately my daughter has been saying that I love my son more, my daughter stays with me all the time and I share my little boy equally with his dad. The thing is I feel as though I don't get to spend as much time with him as I would like so at times I do treat him differently, it's not that I love him more it's that I want him to know that I love him just as much. How do I explain this to a 7 year old?

Answer 1

Tell her that Mommy and Daddy love them both the same and even though they may not get treated the same the amount of love that you have from them is abundant and equal. Explain to her that if or when she feels left out to let you know so that you can have a girls day or something. Some children are just needy and she may be that way!

Good luck!

Answer 2

while he's with daddy. Take her out somewhere special and tell her that since you don't get to see her brother that much you want to spend time with him while he is there. Let her know that while he's with daddy, that's your special time. Just you and her. Show her that you really do care about her and take her places while he's with his father. Good luck and God bless

Answer 3

You don't. If your kid is feeling neglected, they'll tell you.

Coming from a family of 3 kids and one parent, I know it's hard to divide your attention equally.

Here's an idea- the little boy is 3 years old, so after he goes to bed or down for a nap, spend one on one time with your little girl. Show her that even though little bro is getting more of mommy's time recently (since you havent seen him in a while, it's understandable) it doesn't mean mommy loves you any less.

Instead of talking to her about it, set time out for the two of you. Paint her nails, read a book. Anything. She just wants time with her mama!

Answer 4

I would take her and do more stuff especially when the little boy is not home. Like take her to the zoo, museums, and swimming etc. Good luck!!!

Answer 5

You 'share' your son?

I don't think that your son is an object but anyway just when you have your daughter alone do special things with each other

(paint nails etc.) then when all 3 of you are together spend time together.

Answer 6

Other than the obvious....that he is younger and needs to be watched and "babied' a little bit more, remind your daughter that you did the exact same thing for her when she was 3.  

When you find yourself doing something for the 3 year old, talk to your 7 year old about how it was when you did the same thing with her.

It also helps to bring out the baby pictures and talk to your daughter about her younger days.  Luckily, she is 7, and can understand your words.  3 year olds who are new big brothers/sisters have a harder time.

Answer 7

tell her you love her just as much and your sorry you havent shown it lately but you will and start

making the time you have with just her special

take her out somewhere special at least once a week without her brother