Help on getting over insecurities?

Question

I think I know why I'm like this, my childhood certainly wasn't at all pleasant and still isn't to this day, I have mental problems (namely hypochondriasis) I I know I'm not content with who I am.

But it's come to the point where my insecurities & paranoia are affecting my relationships (especially this particular relationship, I stupidly let my insecurities get the best of me & asked her meaningless questions in a vain attempt to reassure myself that she's not lying to me & I'm certain I've ballsed it up with the single most important person in my life).

I need help.

Answer 1

I think you could consider a natural herbal remedy for nervousness and it is called Valerian. It might help you to be more at peace with yourself. For your mind I can only suggest you google a short piece called Desiderata. It should help you a lot with how you feel too.

I do hope that you can find some peace of mind and develop more self-sufficiency very soon. You sound to be suffering badly and I am really sorry about that. Try to focus - Valerian for the nervous system and Desiderata for your negative thoughts about yourself. Best wishes. UK  

Answer 2

Well, i don't know of this is going to help you, but it's worth a shot. :)

At least you realize you need help, that's always the first step. Disliking yourself isn't going to help you achieve goals (like getting good grades if you're in high school), its not going to make you feel happy, and, as you know, its not going to help your current and future relationships. It only hinders you and brings no joy in life and self-hatred is a wasted emotion (if you can call it that).

I'm not sure what it is you don't like about yourself, whether it be physical appearance, intelligence or capability to understand information, your personality or the way you act towards others etc etc. However, i do know that focusing on these things are only going to bring more frustration and self doubt.

So, i suggest you focus on the positive things you like about yourself. Make a list, not of your faults, but of your positive attributes and other things that make you happy to be yourself. Also, DO NOT compare yourself to others. Ever. It's just not a good idea, especially when you are insecure.

This probably didn't help you, but i can only hope it did. I wish you only the best of luck on getting over your insecurities! :)

And also, remember, it could always be worse.

Answer 3

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