Help on parent problems

Question

ok heres the deal, me moms been in prison since i was 3 and ive been seeing my dad every other weekend and my mom made this schedule that i see my dad two weekends and on the third weekend i see her (in prison) and that worked well for me so we followed that for years but then all of the sudden my sister was trying to change that so now we are all mixed up and my sister is so mad at me for always wanting to see me dad but i just love him so much and i also love my mom but it feels like ive never forgiven her on what she used to do to me and my sister and how she messed up her life in front of us. so anyways my mom got in confinement so that messed up out schedule so she wanted me to see her on a weekend that was supposed to be me and my dads weekend! and i had to go school shopping so i called my dad up and he was sad because he had plans for us and i was sad to because i never like turning my dad down he is always alone in his small 1 bedroom apartment and its dark always!! but that's not the problem so anyways my sister is mad at me for still wanting to go see my dad because she doesn't ever see her dad! so moms the only one she has which i understand her point. but she just doesn't understand me so i dint know what to do I'm stuck between 2 decisions either go to my dads and do whatever but be mad at by my sister and some other people because they think i dont love mom, or go see my mom but make my dad sad and mad and they will start arguing again but they wont be mad at me oh thanks for whoever took the time to read this and thanks for all answers :(

Answer 1

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Answer 2

well, first off, i cant believe i read this whole thing. consider yourself lucky. second, follow your heart LITERALLY! where ever your heart want to be is where you should go. some people might be mad at you for your choice, or the might not be. but you shouldnt do something or go somewhere just because you knew it would make everyone else happy. you need to do whats best for you, even if it means some people will be givin you the evil eye for a day or two. basically, listen to your heart, not your head. you'll be much happier!

Answer 3

Sweetie, you have only one thing to make plans about: your future. Please, you have to live somewhere where you can focus on your studies, that will bring you INDEPENDENCE; and that only! Please focus on that or ask to live with someone else. There is a way, I've been there. Good luck and lots of hugs. One more thing. Don't look at your family as your family. Consider them business partners, that will take your emotional pain away, I did the same otherwise I would have lost it. Sometimes you have to change your life's philosophy to survive. But remember, study and get away from all of them and have your rebirth! You deserve a beautiful and gentle human touch, nothing less! God bless, x*x

Answer 4

first of all, you have a very tender heart and I bless you for that. I see how you can be confused over such a delegate situation. Your Mother is the only one you and your sister share in your life, but your father is your biological parent and your Sister doesn't get to see her dad.

To me it sounds like your Sister is highly jealous of your relationship with your Dad and the bond you two share. Its is ok to be upset with your Mom for the stuff she put you and your sister through. It is only a natural emotion.Your Sister is just going to have to get through it and understand that your not turning your back on your mom but at the same time your not turning your back on your dad either. Prison is not a leisure palace for those to go to , its a place for punishment and you need to remind your sister of that. Tell her to about how you feel,tell her you love your mom but you cant forgive her for the stuff she put you through. Be there for your dad but continue the schedule with your mom. Tell your mom that you plan on keep the schedule you always have and wont change it for nobody. Also tell your sister if she wants to go see your mother with out you then do so but your not going to change your life and schedule to accommodate your mother or your sister just to make them happy. Remember your mother is in prison ... they have rules and schedules...if she didnt like how it is then she should never have done what she did.

Also... go see your DAD!

Answer 5

You should do whatever makes you feel the best!

Answer 6

I know this is difficult for you, but you do what you think is best for YOU not for your sister or anybody else.

Answer 7

Go and see your dad, and always follow your intution in life. Don't try to please others, or be over-concerned about what they think.

Fathers are very important to young people, desprite what some might think.

Answer 8

That's tough. It sounds like your sister is jealous. Its interesting that you're being so accommodating to your sister even when she isn't understanding of you. While she is your sister, you shouldn't let others pull you away from the things that make you happy. If you kept doing that, then who is left to care about YOUR happiness?

If the current schedule is making you unhappy, then you should go back to the schedule that did make you happy. Also, if you decide to visit your mom (remember, you are in control here) on a day you were suppose to be with your dad, then talk to your dad about it and ask if its okay. He may feel sad, but he will feel better that you respected him enough include him in your decision. At the same time, inform your mom that the next scheduled weekend you have with her will go to your dad since she took an early one. It's the most fair that way, don't you think?

Who cares what anyone else thinks? This is your life. People can think what they want. Sometimes they butt in just because they need something to complain about. They aren't in your position. Don't live your life based on how others tell you to live. Live your life the way you want to. Only you can walk the path to your own happiness, so let those onlookers talk. You're happy and that's what counts. Best of luck to you! Be strong!

Answer 9

Go to your dad and dont mess up the scedule. It sounds to me like your dad loves you more than your mom, otherwise your mom wouldnt have gone to jail and done bad things if she knew she had a family to raise. Go back to school shopping with your dad.