Help on potty training. she is almost 4

Question

My oldest will be 4 in december, she has been potty trained for 1 1/2 years. She will pee no prob. but she still poops in her pants. I have tried everything I can think of to get her to p**p in the potty. she knows when she has to go because she will hide. she says that she is scared. If I see that she is going to hide I'll make her get on the potty and she will hold it and cry. She has done this for so long that she is irregular. Now she may only go 2 or 3 times a week. My youngest is 2 and I am also potty training him and he seems to be doing good. HELP?!?! I have spanked her, offered her everything under the sun, bribed her, stood her in the corner, to even getting her to clean herself up so that she woud see how gross it is to just not doing anything at all. I know that this may seem mean, but I don't know what to do.

Answer 1

have you tryed reading books like "everybody poops" or letting her see you go? she probably thinks its gross or is afraid of the bowel movement. if you want you can go to my profile, click on my best answers, and you will see a question that is similar to your problem. you can click on it and will show you some answers.

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Answer 2

I know what you are going through.  It can be so frustrating.  With my kids, I wanted to make them as comfortable as possible.  I put toilet paper over the water to stop splashes and I found a very safe and very sturdy stool with sides for the toilet so they could hold on the entire time.  http://www.amazon.com/Elite-Child-Corpor...

This stool made all the difference.  They were able to relax and have quick bowel movements with no problems and no mess.  This stool was well worth it.  Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Could it be that she is afraid of the potty? My granddaughter went through a phase like that because she was terrified of the toilet.  

Answer 4

My son later told me he used to be afraid when the toilet flushed, that could be one problem.  I explained the toilet bowl process and said everybody goes poopie in there, that's where they are supposed to go.  

Answer 5

she may just not be ready... put her in a pull up teach her that when she has to go to put her pull up on.. have u also brought her in when u go to show her it's ok?? sounds gross my niece was like this so my sil brought her in when she went and showed her... after a week or so she was fine... something to think about

Answer 6

what is she scared of?  when you figure that out, I think it will be much better.  maybe if she had a potty chair, she'd feel better.

Answer 7

I went through the EXACT same thing with my son.  He was almost four when he finally decided to go on the potty.  Like you, I tried everything I could think of.  I finally just gave up and thought "surely he will go p**p on the potty before he goes to kindergarten.  One day he just decided to go on his own and he has had no problems since then.  I think that they are just as stressed out about it as you are.  The best advice I can give you is just let her do her thing her way...she will get it eventually.  I know it sucks to STILL be changing diapers on a child who is obviously capable of doing the right thing, but by now it should be apparent to you that she is not going to do it until she is dang good and ready.  Just give her  little more time.  Don't make it a big deal.  The most important thing is to make sure she is healthy and if her bm's are becoming irregular it sounds like she is becoming pretty stressed out about it.  Just relax and know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel...she can't c**p herself forever!!!