Help pleas for gods sake help?

Question

this guy i was seeing for a while just literally disapeared for a month and a half so i moved on with someone else, he came back today and thought everything would be the way it was but when i told him it wasn't gonna be the same as before because i had a new boyfriend. so he kicked of and was shouting loud in my street now he is phoning and threatening to bring people to my house to do some not very nice things to me to bad to say on here should i call the police now or see if it does happen??

Answer 1

i would say ring the police, waiting to see if he hurts you or anyhting like that isnt really a smart idea

Answer 2

It sounds like he went off with someone else to see if the grass was greener on the other side and found out it wasn't. Now he's come back thinking he can carry on carry on where he left off!

He sounds completely unable to deal with his emotions by throwing all sorts of threats in your direction (as if he thinks that's going to lure you back!). A real man would probably send you flowers and apologise for disappearing!

Try to rationalise - Who are these 'people' that he is going to bring to your house? His mates? Will they really care? They'll probably think he's a big sissy to get all bent out of shape over a girl!

This guy sounds like a jerk. He also sounds very young. If you still live at home - tell your parents! Often a parent is enough to sort out this type of nonsense.

As for whether he'll so something - You know him better than us - ask yourself whether he's violent or is he just all mouth? If you live alone and have huge doubts about your safety then YES - call the police.  Otherwise go and stay with a friend which will give him time to cool down. If he only came back today, he's probably going to be a lot calmer tomorrow.

Feel free to contact me and let me know what happens.

Good luck.  

Answer 3

well I am not sure, but probably you could phone them (the police) and explain the situation, see what they think. futher maybe think about how you managed to get into this situation. like why did you think it was over and he didn't etc. and then try to have more clarity in the future.    

Answer 4

i dont think you should call the police yet but let someone know like your boyfriend and some friends so that if something dos happend you will have people to back you out because they will say that you told them what he said and stuff like. I think he was just upset so dont freak out

Answer 5

You sound frightened, and no-one has the right to frighten you like that, I would ring the police and just tell them of this guys threat, just in case,

they might ask for details, name etc, which if he is known to them, will give you some indication if (or not) he has some sort of criminal record, then you'll have an idea of who it is that you have had a narrow escape from.

As well as, phone your b/f or family just in case, although I do suspect this guy is probably 'all mouth'.. and if he's willing to hit out at a woman is a coward, and a ***** head.

Caramac x

Answer 6

I would say tell the Police, they Will at least file a report.

He cannot handle rejection, but that is his problem not yours.

Sometimes as unfair as it sounds stupid situations like this

happen in life.   If you could not explain it to him reasonably

then at least find someone that maybe can.  [if you frequent

the same places ].  Maybe he has , or will calm down.

But if your really frightened, i think going to the police will

give you some protection.

Answer 7

For god's sake no. He is a crazy man. What was he doing and where was he? What kind of an idiot/

he probably expected you to wait for him or something.

Unfortunately I tend to wait for at least three months after it doesn't go well in a relationship, as I'll be grieving and pissed off and angry.

And if the guy calls or texts wanting to get back together, I never do. Instead I go out purposely aimed to hurt him for being such a ***** in teh first place. I'm not sayng I'm not responsible for a break up but I'm a good girl, never cheated and have really committed myself then I feel used after.

Sorry, I type too much.

If talking to him (from a safe distance) doesn't work out, call the police immediately. You need to be protected  

Answer 8

It's a big risk not to call the police, however you should make your current man aware and your family aware of this loony!!

Note any threats and commotion that he brings with him to you. Try not to provoke or have him insist things will change coz his back now! Get rid of bad rubbish!

Good Luck

Answer 9

Give him one chance when he phones.

Say 'Stop or police are called'      Then do it.

Answer 10

call them now, i know people like that don,t let him back into your life, call them,

Answer 11

send me his number I will make sure he goes away!!!..

Answer 12

Do you really want to wait to find out what could happen if he DID do something??? That is setting yourself up for failure. You need to call the police right now and see what they can do for you and how they can help. I would call your new boyfriend over as well to help protect you. This scum you speak of sounds like he isn't any good news!