Help please! I'm feeling so sad!!!

Question

Hi all,

Wonder if anyone is in the same situation as me...

I am feeling so sad.

Reason: I dont have any bf.

I am concentrating a lot on myself just to forget that I am still single...

Already 26. Can you imagine how awful it is to be single...

I wish I could meet someone interesting. But I dont see anyone around. And not interested with any.

I have set some criteria:

I need a tall, gd looking guy as ambitious as myself and having a better career than myself.

hardworking not necessarily rich.

Please dont say I am looking for someone perfect.

If I consider someone as described above perfect, someone else might not consider this as perfect.

Please advise. I'm afraid I'll need to settle down with anyone at the end...

Thanks!

Answer 1

ur not shopping for the perfect furniture............ur ruling out a lot of guys just suprficially get out date have fun relax and u never know mr right might turn up when u chill out a bit

Answer 2

it is just very hard to find a guy you like, don't feel sad,a lot of people are not in a relationship and it is for the same reasons you give...to find a guy with a good job and good looking is not easy as it should be,also you have to think it takes two...you have to find a guy who like you too and is not with another girl already!  and don't ever settle! better not to be with someone if you are not really happy around you, or you will really be sad with them !

Answer 3

It may be you are just not looking in the right places, or are looking in all the wrong places.  Bars and nightclubs are the wrong places.  Churches are better, and becoming a member of the better "clubs" and organizations having successful business people as members and even volunteering at places where the kind of person you are looking for may hang out, or visit, like civic functions, the library, etc.  There are many places you can frequent and clubs you can join which will increase your chances.  Also, refrences from trusted family and friends may help.  But remember, you get peaches off a peach tree, and lemons off lemon trees, so avoid the lemon trees (neighborhood bars, road houses, pool halls, the internet, etc.  Good luck, and happy trails.

Answer 4

As the great coldplay said - "everythings not lost" and always keep your mind open - love can appear in the most unlikely places if you are open for it.

Answer 5

well you want a tall good looking man thats fine but when you say that you want a man that has a better career than you then you are asking for a man to take care of you . Just be happy with a man with a career not a job . If he make 50k a years and you make 60k that you should be happy with  (just using numbers for example) . If a man is going no where and is between jobs every 6 months ok fine you don't want that very understandable . Before asking what a man makes ask him what he does for work you will be able to figure out if it's a career or a Job

Keep in mind being a Carpenter, Electrician, Plumber is a craft and a career people do not have to be Doctor , Lawyer , for them to be successful  

Answer 6

well you know its not bad to be single. and just wait mr.right will come anytime. :))

Answer 7

when your least expecting it mr right will come along you have got to stop trying so hard as it will show and you will end up putting the wrong message across to lads that your desperate and you dont want that and remember to smile

Answer 8

Just get out there. In your situation, I'd say stop looking for the perfect guy, and start looking for someone that you think you might be able to spend the rest of you life with.

Answer 9

my brother is 28 and hes single..

does that make you feel better?

me... yeah im not.

and i have the love of my life and im 14.

i bet that doesnt make you feel better though

my bf is 18 and he just asked me to marry him

HAHHA

im like yeah when i turn 18..

sorry about your luck.

are you pretty?

cause if not that may be why

Answer 10

This is very common when a woman focuses too much on her career and when she's comfortable and want to start dating, it's harder for her to that because of her age. But honestly, you're 26, not 56. You are young enough to find someone that will settle down with you. Just put yourself out there. Go places you never went to before, do things that you've never done before. And while you have this time for yourself, enjoy it. Enjoy hobbies like painting, scrap-booking, etc. Keep yourself busy because if you don't, you'll find yourself depressed and always dwelling on the fact that you're single. If you keep yourself busy, time will fly by fast and before you know it, you'll have a boy toy. Good luck :)

Answer 11

happiness shouldn't be determined nor be dependent on other people. It should come from within one's self.  

Answer 12

Cheer up and things will get better.

Answer 13

Maybe your friends have single guy friends? Any single guys where you work? Go to the mall? I don't know, just go and talk to some.

Answer 14

I got one out of five =/ (hardworking).

There are a few decent guys out there, the ones that fit your criteria will not be decent. They will be s****. and arrogant and more focused on work than you. Just lower you're expectations for a while. You meet a good guy, good on ya! You meet trash then go back to searching for the needle in the haystack.

Answer 15

Are you all that to be worthy of such high standards?

If you are just plain, like most of us, you might want to lower your standards...

I know of couple of people that missed the opportunity of marrying a person who didn't fall in their standards, and regretted FOREVER!

Answer 16

well i think the first thing to do is love yourself if you can't be comfortable by yourself you cannot expect a guy to do so. also 26 is young! don't give up on yourself you always find things when you're not looking so give it time, take up hobbies, get out and live life!

Answer 17

ok.. first off. smile ... stressin and thinkin about these things only makes them work....

u are still very young.... so dont stress about that..

and now about the guy thing.. DONT LOOK FOR HIM! thats wen u will never find him.... fate takes things things udner its wing and i am sure u will bump into the guy u will love... just go aout ur lifeas u do.. go to social places that do things that interest u.. if u and ur guy share a passion like a sport then thats fantastic!!

ur not lookin for much.. as in ur expectations are not high.. but do u really need him to be all of those.. have no expectations.. and u wont be disapointed...

DONT SETTLE FOR SECOND BEST..  BE PICKY!  and dont worry everything has a time and palce.. urs and ur guys will come.. imagine if u live to 50.. u have alreayd only lived half ur life os calm down...

hav fun with ur friends....  good luck.... anything else u can connect to me

Answer 18

Don't panic and don't rush.  There is someone who is really meant for you, you just have to wait.  If you do push your luck, you might end up with someone you will hate later on.