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My son is 19 months old. when ever he doesnt get his way he bites. Not other people but himself. he bites his arms, legs, fingers and leaves really bad marks on himself. he doesnt break skin but the marks are left their for days. Also when he dont get his way he slams his head on things. Does anyone have any advice on what to do to make him stop?? i tried punishing him but it doesnt do anything and telling him no doesnt do anything. any advice would be helpful

Answer 1

This is sadly why they refer this as the terrible 2's. I have a 17 month old an adoption and i have raised some of my little cousins let me tell ya its pretty much kids being 2. I had one when she was upset held her breath i mean her face was purple but she didnt die from it kids know there limits but they will push you. My daugther now if she doesnt get her way her a mom says she flings herself on the ground kicking and screaming i mean she's just a terror. Kids are very smart i'd be more worried if he's biting other people but its just himself. Not saying that's good ethier but if he's doing that to himself he thinks ok if i do this i'll get my way it's just like a tatrum he's just hurting himself. Trust me he knows his limits on what he's doing. My advice would be to ignore it let him get it out of his system but if that deosnt work when he starts to bite make him wear gloves or something that covers where he bites make him wear it awhile and tell him if you wanna keep biting bite on that. I dont know how your punishing him but i would also suggest take something away that he really loves maybe a blanket or toy hold it to you and tell him if you keep doing this then this stays with mommy you dont get it put it somewhere away from him and where  he cant reach trust me he'll get the messege. Hope this helps you

Answer 2

First off:  Talk to his pediatrician.  Tell the Dr. what he's been doing just to keep the spectrum open to advice/opinions on how to handle this.  Perhaps, the Dr. will run some tests to see if your son may have an early on-set of a  disability.

The biting sounds like it may be out of frustration over something.

Secondly:  I do have a couple of friends who's kids do the same sort of stuff, i.e. biting (usually other people, though.  The fact that he bites himself is a bit odd and I am NOT a Dr., but DEFINITELY talk to his pedi about that one) and the smashing of their heads into objects, walls, the ground, etc.

My friend's kids have actually been put in helmets to keep from biting and hurting themselves by smashing their heads into things.

Other than that, I wish you luck.  It's not easy being a parent, that's for sure.  Good luck.

Answer 3

awww..poor guy.  Sounds like he is just frustrated and doesn't know how to express his anger. Maybe Try talking to him gently and explaining you know he is upset but he can't hurt himself.  There are products out there that are for stress relief.  Squishy balls that he can squeeze really hard with his hands.  maybe showing him how to squeeze it when he gets angry instead of biting will help.  Good Luck!!!!!

Answer 4

Go see your Dr. I have a few friends where that was what they told the Dr and it turned out there kid had autism!!! and I know its hard but these things are what can happen. My son did the same thing and he doesn't have autism but has a severe speech disability Oral Dyspraxia. Have him checked and if everything is normal than great. Then try the Bear hug thing it worked with my sons frustrations it does take time but it does work. the soft pop on the mouth and taking things away!!! I have had to go as far as throwing toys away!!! It sucks but strong willed children need that extra strength in a parent. Good Luck and god Bless.

Answer 5

Try holding him in a bear hug until he clams down. This will take time. Some parents don't have time to do the things that will help. It may take 15 minutes the first time...but each time it will be less. Hold him firmly where he cannot wriggle around. He may be screaming and fighting you, but you are stronger. It will help him immensely to know that you are in control. Talk softly telling him how much you love him and how you don't want anyone hurting your little boy. Tell him lots of positive soothing things. He is out of control when doing these things. It is so scary for a child when he is out of control. The best way to diffuse the situation is to let him know, "it's okay, Mommy is in control, mommy will take care of you, mommy gets mad too sometimes, but it's all still okay." It's worth a try. These things do not always resolve themselves. Sometimes they get worse as the child gets older. It's good you are looking for answers now.

Answer 6

My youngest daughter did the same thing. We use to tap her mouth and tell her no when she did it! The only bad part is there is not really much you can do he will just have to grow out of it by himself. When he starts to get alot of teeth then it will really hurt and he shouldnt be doing it as much. Just watch him and make sure he doesnt start biting others. Maybe he is teething so i would give him teething toys or ice cold clothes to! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

my child use to do the same thing. try to stop him hold him comfort him talk to him, tell him you know he's upset but mommy loves you and you can't always have your way .it's ok to be upset. my peditrician confronted me about a knot on his head and i said  tell him to stop what he's doing and watch. he said "no-no honey put that down" my child cried loudly and banged his head repeatedly on the wall; the dr said i guess if it hurts he will stop doing it.