Help please its sort of urgent

Question

ok my cuzins boyfriend is 20 (shes 19) and im 13 they've been dating for about a year and 3 months now and im rilli happy for her but i think he fancies me cuz wen we was at my nans and grandads aneversary party we were sitting at a table when the music was playing and he kept touching my legs and moving further up and when he asked me to slow dance with him (my cuzin said it was ok for us to dance) he kept sucking my neck and holding me close then we went back to my nans house and i was in the backroon lying down next to the fire place and he lyid on top of my and he leant in to kiss me but i turned away then when we dropped him home there wasnt enuf room in the car so i had to sit on his lap and he had his arms around my waist does he faancy me or am i just being paranoid

Answer 1

sounds like a real jerk! Don't tell your cuz just yet. Set him straight! Let him know your not interested in guys that cheat! If he continues to step outta line, then tell . If you are interested in him though, and you choose to be with him anyway, your relationship with your cuz will be compromised to say the least and what would that say about you?  What would your cousin do if  thing were reversed?

Answer 2

If you were my daughter, I would have rung his neck by now. Report him, he is a pervert.

Answer 3

Sexual harassment, it's a crime, especially for him (20 to be doing to you (13)

please inform your cousin of this, or your parents.

Answer 4

This man is seven years older than you, and he is taking advantage of you, along with disrespecting his girlfriend.  

Legally you are below the age of consent so his attempts to touch you in this way are illegal and very wrong.  You need to tell either your parents or an adult you trust what happened.  You are not being paranoid.  At thirteen you can class this type of behaviour as abuse.  You are too young for this and he is invading your personal space without your consent, and upsetting you.  This is not your fault, it is his.

This man must stop his behaviour.  If he is doing this with you he may be doing worse with other girls your age or younger.  It may even be that the police need to be involved if he is found to be targetting children in this way.  Do not worry though, you will not be asked to do or say anything which makes you uncomfortable.  There are adults who understand and can deal with these situations sensitively.  

If you don't want to talk to your parents, call childline, or talk to your teacher.

Keep away from this man.  Do not even talk with him.  He is dangerous.  You have many years yet before you are both legally in a position to handle this type of behaviour and emotionally experienced enough to understand it.

He is taking advantage of you, and can damage your views on men if this continues.  Although doing this may be very difficult for you, you really need to talk to a trusted adult, now.  Do not at at this stage tell your cousin - it is better she hears about this from another adult, as she may be upset and turn on you, which would be horrible.  But she does need to know what happened.

This may have been a one off.  He may have been drunk, or he may not have known your age.  I do not have all the facts.  But regardless of any excuse what he has done is serious and wrong, and you must address it.  I am so sorry for what you have to do and what you are feeling, but ultimately you will feel better for not carrying this burden yourself.

Stay strong and let us know how you get on or if you need any more support.  Be aware this is an open forum and you may get all sorts of answers, some more helpful than others.  I hope you understand that I am concerned and want to help and take my advice.

Best Wishes

Answer 5

i think you need to stay away from him, your still a little girl compared to him, i think you should tell your parents what he has done to you.

Answer 6

Yeh what they said. You need to tell your parents or someone at least. You don't want anything else happening. So tell someone.

Answer 7

go with your gut! this guy is really weird you should probably tell somebody about it.

Answer 8

That guy seems like a real piece of work. If possible, stay away from him and ignore his texts. And you should probably tell your cousin so she's not in a relationship with this stupid dbag.

Answer 9

20 Years old and your 13! That guy is a sicko...hello!  And he's your cousin's boyfriend, that's just wrong on so many different levels. 0_o   Please don't even think about getting with him, you should tell her what's happened, if she's smart she'll believe you, and she'll leave his butt!

Answer 10

yeah he does fancy you thats just gross tell your parents and your cousin

Answer 11

he likes you and try to stay away from him because he's too old and sounds messed up and talk to your cuz about it even if it hurts her its for the better

Answer 12

this one is easy, he could be sent to jail for what he has done to you so far. he absolutely "fancies" you. in fact its not all that unimaginiable that he hooked up with your cusin to get to you. I know it may be flattering but trust me you do not want to get invloved with this guy. He likes young girls. If your willing tell your cuzin what he is doing, or your parents, or anybody just tell someone. And if you think you may have a shot with this guy think about this. He likes young girls, and right now you are one, but you won't be one forever and when you get older he will just dump you for another youg girl, if you have any younger siblings or neices or other family members chances are good he'll do to you what he has done to your cusin. That is use you to get to them then he'll drop you like a bad habit and start "dating" them. I'm sure you don't want to be used.

One other thing he might tell you how pretty you are and how he only wants to be with you, well let me ask you something, dont you think he said the same things to your cusin? if he's lying to her whats to keep him from lying to you. if you can asnwer that question your smarter than i.

Answer 13

Tell your cousin hes doin that! I think thats kinda gross! He's 20, and your 13!  

Answer 14

This is a bit improper given you're age and he could get into serious trouble. Re follow up information Please tell you're mum or an adult you can trust, school teacher even.

Answer 15

I think he sounds like a creep.  What kind of guy dates one girl, and sucks on her cousin's neck.  That's shallow and shows no respect to either of you.  Not to mention his age.  When I was 13 I had a similiar situation with a 19 yr. old, he had a girlfriend his age and everything, only when he got me alone he tried to rape me.  I'd watch yourself, he probably thinks (or knows) you are a virgin, and just a fresh cherry to pluck.  

Answer 16

You are 13. He is 20. You should call the police, because he is a louse and is taking advantage of you being so young. He doesn't fancy you, dear, he's just trying it on because he CAN and because he thinks that he will get away with doing this to you. It's disgusting behaviour on his part.

Tell your mother right away. That man has NO BUSINESS WHATSOEVER acting like this with you.  

Answer 17

show your cousin this you need to sort it out, it may lead to something that you regret, ell her everything and text him back saying not to contact you again.

Good Luck.

Tasmin xx

Answer 18

What he did was wrong. He tried to take advantage of you and considering your age this is really not a good thing. I would mention it to your parents or to a friends parents if it is easier. Imagine if he tried to do this to someone else of your age and it went further? You have to say something, also it is not fair on your cousin if he is trying things on with you. He may seem really nice, but what he did was not nice and he should know better.

Good luck with sorting this out.  

Answer 19

he sucked your neck and you /think/ he fancies you? of course he does and hes a complete pedo. tell your parents and get them to sort it out cuz thats just disgusting.  

Answer 20

I suggest posting this at www.nifty.org or maybe alt.s*x.stories on usenet, but not a place like this.

Nice try, though. lmao

Answer 21

Tell your parents right away! And stay away from him!

Answer 22

ok this is wrong. He is a paedo and is going to mis use u. Talk to ur parents immeidately and show them the text! He should eb sent to prison!

Answer 23

You definitely appear to be experiencing inappropriate behavior from your cousin's boyfriend.  You need to tell someone about this and stay away from him.  It is not okay for a 20 y/o male to hit on a 13 y/o.  In fact, it is against the law and he could go to jail for it.  The danger for you is how far he will take it and whether he would force himself on you.  You should stay away from the person and tell someone you trust about what he did to you.

Answer 24

he's being nice. Try typing a bit more accurate, not all of us thirteen year old's type like we're six. He doesn't like like you, he just is being nice. If he had romantic feelings for you, tell the police or a trusted adult IMMEDIATELY.

Answer 25

Fred87 is right. He is 20 years old. I'm 20 years old and I would not go for a 13 year old boy my fiance is 21. People try to stay in the age range while dating. Although there are big age gapped relationships out there, they both are still adults. You need to tell someone immediatly. It sounds like it was unwelcome touching. He could be a sexual psychpath and could do something to really hurt you. There are freaks like that.

Answer 26

Be careful because It sounds as if thats sexual harassment.

tell your cousin and a parent or guardian.

A.S.A.P!

Answer 27

The next time he comes close to you, go where other people are and tell him to leave you alone. Tell your parents, your cousin, your grandparents, anyone that will listen, because if he is doing this to you, he might be doing it to someone else.  

Answer 28

fancy huh? nice word. but duh!!!!!!!!

Answer 29

yeah he likes you. so u should tell ur cousin

Answer 30

What a freak!  cant believe a 20 year old would want to sleep with someone whos only 13, your under age and he should not be sendin texts like that to you.  I think he thinks ur an easy target cos ur so young and more likely to give in to him.  I would show the texts hes been sending you to ur cousin cos if hes doing that to you, he could be doing that to others, do u really want your cousin to land up with someone like that?!  This has to stop, you should not be pressurised into something like that at ur age, its disgusting quite frankly.  Tell your parents about this, you need adult support. xx

Answer 31

Can I say scary?!?!

I think you should talk to you're cousin, about her boyfriend. And maybe she can talk to him about it? So he'll stop freaking you out!!