Help please! me, kids and my husband?

Question

my husband really wants another baby and he has been asking me verry nicely and keeps bringing the subject up! he gets all happy and talks about how he wants to take the new baby everywhere and show it the world. all that cute stuff he does with our son already. but to be honost when my son was born 4 years ago i thought id start to like babbies and kids but i still dont. im a good mother but not a child person at all. what would you do? mature advice only please.

Answer 1

i think you should sit him down and tell him how you feel about children and babies. As your husband he should know the truth. Marriage is about compromise and you did compromise with the first child for him to be happy, which is a good thing. Knowing how you feel, he may be willing to compromise about a second child. He may be disappointed but i think he'll be able to cope with it knowing that you were completely honest with him. You may feel bad because you  don't agree with him about the situation but i beg you, please don't agree to have another baby because you want HIM to be happy. You also deserve to be happy and that's where the communication skills come back into play. You both want what's best for the other person so that's why you shouldn't give up your own happiness for his(he wants the best for you and if you're not happy then he's not either)Honesty in your communication is the best policy in this case.

Answer 2

Tell him your conclusion about you and children and talk, talk, talk, and then talk more.

Answer 3

You have to be honest with him and yourself, tell him what you told us on Yahoo Answers cause if you still don't like babies and kids you should not bring another one into the world, it would not be fare to you or especially the new baby if you had another one. Tell him be thankful for the son you have, some couples don't have any children.

Answer 4

Do you mean that you don't like children in general, or children who aren't your own?

I hate other people's children. They're awful. But I know it will be different when I have my own. There will be trying times, but I will still love them and cherish the moments as they grow.

Having children is more then just having a baby. Babies only stay small for so long. You and your husband should sit down and talk about whether you should have more kids.

Answer 5

Talk,you can't have more kids as long as you feel this way.It would be a grave mistake.He has other avenues to be with kids other than havin his own.He has to realise this is his only option as long as you feel the way you do.Uncle,big brothers,somethin,but to have a kid the mother didn't want would be a terrible thing.I hope the son you have never has to face or see you feel that way about him.You need to spend the time with him as well.Give him the chance to be your son and know he wasn't a mistake.He might grow on you as well.But deffinately,no more kids while you feel as you do.Talk,talk and more talk.

Answer 6

If you don't want more children, don't have them. Be honest with your husband and tell him exactly what you told us. Feeling as you do it would be a horrible for you to bring more children into the world. Not everyone is cut out for motherhood and that is all right.