Help please! my mother is getting on my last nerves!?

Question

okay, so yesterday my dad came home from work & he asked me

how school was. i told him that it was boring. then he asked if i learned

anything new. i told him what i learned & then this whole conversation

came up between me & my mom.

we got into a fight about how she says "im not interested in anything".

sorry lady, i am. i love to learn about history & ancient civilizations

and outer space. i also love anatomy. & im very active in sports.

i ice skate, dance, do gymnastics, play volley ball, & take modeling classes

& acting classes.

ive danced & ice skated since i was 3. so yeah.

but anyways shes being really stupid and saying how perfect mrs. ivanne's

[her best friend] daughter caitlyn is.

& now whenever she gets a chance shes bringing this situation up

& it happened yesterday. idk, but i think that shes acting really immature.

but what do i tell her so she wont get mad at me?

what should i say so she doesnt bring that up anymore

& stop comparing me to caitlyn? it seems like everytime i try

to tell her she doesnt listen.

ive said, "mom, stop comparing me to caitlyn! im not caitlyn & i never will be caitlyn!

so stop telling me how perfect she is. i dont care becuase im me & im not

perfect like her. so please, stop bringing this up. & i am interested in things.

incase you havent noticed ive danced & iceskated since i was 3 years old. i love to learn & play sports so realy... end of discussion."

Answer 1

i hate when moms do that. if u tried tellig her to stop and she didnt then idk WHAT will work?? how about u compare her to another good mother and when she gets annoyed remind her that she does same thing to u. idk. hope it works out for u.

Answer 2

tell her exactly what you are telling us. sit her down tell her you want to talk to her and not to interrupt until you have said everything. she probably doesn't realize how bad it hurts you so tell her all of this, that you are interested, that you are a great dancer etc etc etc.  but the important thing is to remain calm because if you plough into the conversation with guns a blazing she won't take you seriously. you don't have to raise your voice. hopefully she will acknowledge how mature you are and give you a break

best of luck

Answer 3

I would tell you to ignore her but that's wrong, I would tell you to stop talking to her but that's just down-right rude. Look as humans we can't choose our parents and at time they can be a pain (<-you know where). If for some reason you 2 get in another argument/fight again, just walk away thats all, I know that it's hard to do such a thing but its the only best option for now.

As for her comparing you to someone else, dont mind that, you know you are special in many ways and you are proud to be who you are, you dont need anyone (not even your parent) to tell you that your completly special and unique in many ways. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Like you said...End Of Discussion! I could be mean enough to say buy her a gift and sign it...From your daughter caitlyn. But, since you are trying to be a good daughter I had better hush..lol...You know, parents at times don't seem to have a clue. Look at mom directly and let her know that you deserve the respect that should be received from her as your daughter. Let her know that you are proud of who you are and your accomplishments and you hope she is to, but her negativity will not stand in your way of walking the path you want to walk into in life. Let her know that you love her ...but any negative comments from her well, as of now she is on notice...she will be put on ignore and you refuse to get into these negative discussions....then...give her a hug let her know that you love her and go about your business

Answer 5

I would tell my mom:

ok so you want me to be like her.I'll do that when you could act like her mom.when dad could act like his father.from now on I'm expecting you to give me the life caitlyn has and then I'm going to be HER

Answer 6

girl ur so unluky to have a mom like her am like u and when i tell her to stop she says that she do this so i be abetter person but i want to be who i am.i tried evry thing with her. and i stopped trying and i began to avoide her so am busy with my live and trying to stay away from her as possable . trust me do what i do and u will be happy like me.                                                                

                

               good luke