Help pregnant by my sisters boyfriend?

Question

About 3 months ago he dumped her. I was good friends with him like sort of flirty. I tried to get him back with her and days later we were talking heart to heart, he said he really wanted me and things and didnt want to do anything while he was with her, i said no cos the age gap is too big (im 17 (legal here is 16), his 28, sis is 25) he promised he would get back with her if we could have s*x just the once with me, plus a load of mumbo jumbo and that i wasnt on the pill and we got no condom, he said he'd pull out, then we started kissing and so.. you know. They got back together.

Then i found out i was pregnant, i told him and he asked if its his i said of course it is and i hadnt been with anyone for like 2 months before we had s*x but he didnt believe me and said one of his friends has been saying hes been going with me (i did once but that was with a condom and i didnt miss my period after that).

I cant tell my parents/sister, she'd hate me for like ever and ever. I told my best friend im getting an abortion but she changed my mind cos its wrong etc. She said id have to tell my family it was with some guy from a club or something. It makes me sound like a s**t but im really not :( how do i sort this out you think?

Answer 1

omg

I think you should swallow the bitter pill and tell your sister. Yes, it's going to be awful but I feel your sister should know what a creep her BF is.

but whatever you decide it would be okay too..

Answer 2

Tell the truth.

He needs to support your child.

Your sister needs to dump him.

Answer 3

i dont think your telling the truth because if you were thats soooo LOW. and yes that does make you a s*** ... HELLO>>>YOUR 16. grow up. and tell your sister..... karma will get you back BAD. you make me sick... if my sister did that to me, i dont even know what i would do. if i knew who you were i would tell your sister myself. Your a feral. GET A LIFE and stop ruining other peoples/.. and find your own man

Answer 4

it would be easier to say it was someone elses but think of ur baby long term would they not deserve to trully no who their father is. it probably wouldnt have such as much affect on your sister if you told her now rather than her maybe finding out in a few years. he obv doeesnt love her that much if he was sleeping with you anyway

Answer 5

personally having a baby at your age means you will change your life over. your 20s will change so dramatically u will feel like a 30 year old lady. and you cant tell them it was from a random because they will definately find out who the father is. they are your family. they wont just sit there and go....oh it was some random.

think it over very very carefully. and abortion might be bad but it is your body. if its your body its your choice. think it through

Answer 6

I personally think you should discuss this with the guy who got you pregnant, your sister and your parents. Lieing to everyone will just make everything more difficult. Your parents and sister may be mad for awhile but they are your family and will not stay mad for ever. Make sure you do whatever is best for you. Hope it all works out!

Answer 7

tell yourparent but do not tell about him

Answer 8

well, your sister will find it extremely difficult. i walked in on my sister and husband having s*x, i was a wreck, pregnenet with twins aged 1. dont worry, he shouldnt have said that to you.

ur sister will one day forgive you, i have divorced my husband but i have forgiven my sister. its quite emotional giving u this adivce cus i know what a horrible experaince it was for me.

remember blood is thicker then water.

GOOD LUCK!

XOX

Answer 9

Talk to your parents. He took advantage of you a your most vulnerbale. You were trying to help your sister and he is a scum bag that doesn't deserve either one of you. i don't care what the legal age is, he raped you by deception. No real man would take advantage of that situation. If he cheated with his girlfriends sister, do you really think he won't do it to her again with someone else? Get your family involved so that this jerk, doesnt do it again. Your sister may be upset at first, but she will thank you later on. Make this jerk pay for his child. Please talk to your parents and tell them exactly why you were with him. I promise they will help you. Good luck.  

Answer 10

omg that is horrible

pretend its from someone at ur school