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Question

my friend is 15 and she has slept with 4 different guys since she turned 13 all unprotected and is still having unprotected s*x with her 21 year old boyfriend. I really cant understand why she is doing this to herself, i mean its as if she wants AIDS and a baby i just dont know what to do. I feel as if i should tell her parents or something but then i would be betraying her trust. I have warned her so many times of the concequences and have even offered to go with her to the doctor to get her on the pill and tested to see if she has caught anything but she just doesnt care. I need some advice!!!!

Answer 1

Just talk to her, thats all you can really do. Don't tell her parents, try to tell an adult that will remain clam and not take it so hard, an adult you can both trust, like at school.

Oh and call the cops on the 21 year old boyfriend

Answer 2

She's a prostitute-in-training. I would suggest showing her the best street corners in your town.

Answer 3

You can't condemn this kind of behavior from a 15 year old girl. You cant even condemn this behavior from a 40 year old girl tbh! 4 different partners, unprotected. I have no room to talk but i had safe s*x and with the same person.

Friends don't tell on friends but i think that girl needs to learn the hard way. Just state that eventually she WILL get pregnant and she WILL catch an STD. && if she still doesn't care just make it perfectly clear that you will have no part of it.

also make sure you tell her that what she is doing is against the law and her bf would go to prison is anyone found out about this.

(and thank you for answering my question, my boyfriend is 16 years old - just like me) Its all legal. but obviously this was never meant to happen.

Answer 4

I would say tell her parents.  Even if it is "betraying her trust" to her, i think she could really use some help. And to me if u tell her parents it would be the best friend i could have because you could save her future.

       Do what u think u should. Good Luck!!!

Answer 5

wow. if u keep telling her, she obviously doesnt want to listen. maybe the only way she will learn is if she loses u. still dont give up on her. the she will probably do watever she wants even more. try to make an appointment at planned parenthood and tell her ur going somewhere else, but go there. she mite be a little mad but tell her it will be over with and she can do watever she wants after that.

another thing is that YOU dont need that kind of stress. dont tell her parents. then u'd just be a snitch. if she rele doesnt wanna listen, the f*** it, u did everything u could do. u cant blame urself if something happens.

Answer 6

DO NOT TELL ON HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! FRIENDS are there to tell all your secrets,dreams,and everything else dont tell because if you do she won*t talk to you ever again. I REPEAT DO NOT TELL ON HER. What if you were doing somthing like that and you told 1 of your friends and they went and told your mom? I*m not trying to sound mean but I just don*t want her to get mad @ you and not talk to you ne-more because losing a friend is HARD... but good luck

Answer 7

thats one of the hardest thing about being a friend, having friends make choices you know are completely wrong. all my best friends have done things that break my heart. but i have learned they have to live there own life. you can be there for her as a friend if you want to be friends with her.. she will live her own life no matter what you do, you can give advice, and later on down the road when it all comes crashing down on her, then she'll look back and think wow she really cared she told me this could happen. or she'll always live a wild life.. telling her parents wont help you or her, she'll find ways to do what she wants.. best of luck

Answer 8

OMG, thats statutory rape her boyfriend can go to jail. Call the cops on him. She most likely thinks it's the only way a guy will like her if she puts out, but she's always gonna feel like c**p on the inside. She can catch many diseases sleeping around she can also get urinary tract infection which hurts like a *****.. She probably has problems at home or has a past abused life. If she's not listening to you , what makes you think she will listen to her parents. And if she was your real friend she probably telling you so you can help her out somehow. Or maybe she's just a s**t, like Tara Reid. Maybe she wants to get pregnant, ever thought of that. Either way she deff has more probs than just sleeping, she might be just mental.  

Answer 9

yikes, from what it sounds like you have been the mature and responsible friend in this situation. maybe it is best to take a break from her for a while - say "you obviously don't respect yourself and your body so i don't know how you could respect our friendship, i am trying to help you out here but nothing seems to get through to you. i think it would be better if we just kept our distance for a while until you figure some things out"

or you just keep on supporting her and deal with this c**p - i'm not quite sure i would tell her parents because not only will she not trust you anymore, but your other friends might become skeptical and people may label you a snitch

seriously though this situation sucks

Answer 10

if she doesn't want to make herself safe and doesn't care, then you shouldn't either.  you've done all you can do, if she does have something wrong, she'll have to learn the hard way.  Sometimes its better to learn something yourself.  But if she doesn't want to change/stop, nothing you can do will make her change/stop.

Answer 11

Haha I have a friend like that.  She was 12 when she lost.  I'm pretty sure she's usually protected, but she's your average floozy type, and the guys are all much older.

You can encourage abstinence but don't get her on the pill.  Tell her parents.

Answer 12

As a parent I would want to know. It may be the only way to help her by telling her parents. There is an awesome program out there to help teens respect themselves and their bodies called "The ring thing". You may be able to find it online. My honest suggestion is to get her into a great youth program at church. This is what helped my friends.

Good luck!

Answer 13

Try sitting down with her and telling her how you feel.  Maybe if she sees how concerned you are then you can compromise, like taking her to get protection.  If not, then I'd tell her parents.  It may be wrong to break that trust and lose a friend but it just might keep her safe and alive.  Losing a friend is hard, but you can find new ones.  And I'd rather know that I loved and cared for someone so much that I'd be willing to lose them just to make sure that they are safe.