Help teenagers!! Need advise.?

Question

I have a teenager with some anxiety about school starting. I think it's pretty bad. I've tried to talk to her but she doesn't want to talk. Should I keep after her to talk or let her work it out for her self. I've gotten some vitamins to help with stress for her. I just not sure what else to do if she won't talk.

Answer 1

tell her she should not be afraid pf school  cuzzz if she bes herself she will find someone awesome and they will be bestieeeessssss

Answer 2

is it a new school? Well just let her work it out herself. Make her go to school though then everything will work.

Answer 3

dont push her too much. let her talk to her friends. dont act like shes crazy and give her medication! she'll think somethings wrong with her!

Answer 4

you should let her be. And if she needs your help she will come to you. But in time try to take her to the beach or the park and ease her stress so hopefully she can talk to you.

Answer 5

she probally dosent hate skool that much, she must have some friends and if she doesnt go say you dont care just take away the things shes uses alot in a suprize attack she will get bored after a while and want to go to skool also tell her if she fails this grade it just another year she has to go

Answer 6

I had the same problem last year, just make sure she knows everything will be ok, she will probably do fine, tons of teens go through it.  

Answer 7

she probably doesnt want to tell you how she feels because she feels embarresed but once a day just tell her if shes okay and such and let her start school and it will be fine..but has she broke up with her bf or something and hasnt told you?

Answer 8

I know you care about your daughter, but try to lighten up. ya know? try to have fun with her or hang out, and maybe she'll open up. Don't press questions on her, if she doesn't tell you, she prob. will in time.  

Answer 9

beat the s### out of her, sooo she wont be afraid of skool, she will now be afraid of u. sooo everything works out fine...... =]

Answer 10

agreed

Answer 11

DONT PUT HER ON DRUGS OR VITAMINS if you do she is more likely to get worse its school everyone is nervouse about it the trick is dont show that your nervouse

Answer 12

well just let her go to school f she has a prob she will work it out her self

Answer 13

let her work it out herself don't force her

Answer 14

Just tell her that school is an exciting time to meet new friends, and *ahem* new boys...  

It takes a lot of time for someone to open up to the experience of starting school.  I get nervous starting new classes, but there's nothing like a good familial and friend network to get through life's anxiety filled moments.

Answer 15

She's a teenager. She's under a lot of stress already, and the stress of a new school year doesn't help much.

She is being a little dramatic. Is she usually that way? If not, then maybe she's having some other problem than school starting. Maybe there's someone she doesn't want to face, or something bigger. Either way, she could know something that you don't and as a mom, you should try to help her. Keep trying to talk to her.

(If that doesn't work, you might want to try the first guy's suggestion!)

Answer 16

If your daughter is not ready to discuss anything, then I would leave it be for now.   However, something is bothering her.   If this is going to be her 2nd year in this school, then maybe she was a victim of a bully or had something really embarrasing happen to her last year.

You indicate that your family is vitamin-conscious.   I would make certain to exercise together as well.   Just riding bikes together would help raise her endorphins and give her a feeling of betterment.  

Once school starts, make certain you ask her every day how her day is going?   That way as soon as a problem arrives, then you can take things a step further by making a visit to her guidance counselor or school social worker.   This should be a last resort because you don't want to embarass her further if she has already been embarrased.

However, don't spoil her either.  Make certain that you give her daily house chores to do besides her homework.   Make her contribute to the family.

I wish you the best!

Answer 17

Try to talk to her if you can.  You may just have to leave her be if she keeps persisting.  But don't force her or anything.

Answer 18

Homeschool her or you can take her to a therapist  

Answer 19

invite her friends around so they can go together.

Answer 20

Is she starting High school, different school, is it on the other side of town....what is different from last year and this year.  Is she getting picked on, did she get braces, lose weight.  Something has triggered it.

who does she idolize, look up to.........do some research on line, or she could talk with that person or a school counselor.

good luck

Answer 21

If she doesnt want to talk dont push her.  I hated when my mom did that, when she is ready to talk to you about it she will but you have to give her space.  Go take her out for supper and ice cream and just have a good time.  Let her relax.

Answer 22

The only thing that came to my mind honestly is pray for her cause it's natural and especially in this time I believe I would be like that to but the only thing that I can say to you is pray for her that God will keep her protected from hurt harm and that God will keep her from danger seen and unseen that he will be a fence around her at he that he will build a hedge of protection around her. When she is ready to talk she will come to you and talk be bless.

Answer 23

I am a teenager and i have had this before.

I think its completely normal for a teenager to be anxious about starting a new school and being out of her comfort zone.

So i dont think you should worry too much.

Trying to force them to talk can have a neagative effect as they feel under pressure.

Usually teens just need to stress out for a bit, thats how they deal with something new.

Let him/her know that you love them and are here to talk if the want to.

Sharing your experiecnces of starting school may help, and letting them know that you, and most people are scared.

It taks a good few months for someone to settle into school.

I wouldnt worry about it.

Answer 24

leave it alone, she'll talk to you if she wants to.  

Answer 25

leave her to her thought for a little while

switching schools can be nerv racking

after a while just slowly ease her into happy thought about shcool and try to help her understands she will meet so maney new friends!

hope everything works out

Answer 26

why she doesnt like the school to start?

maybe there are reasons for it,like she being bullied, or the enviroments and stuff..

just try to talk to her, be nice...love her,thats the important part,sorry if its sound so corny,but i am a teenager,and i hate when my parents pushing me around without knowing that i was hurt inside

Answer 27

School is about to start so there will be someone there.  Go talk to the school canceler, or the principal and tell them about the anxiety you daughter is experiencing about school starting and she won't discuss it you.

Ask them for help and guidance as to what to do or say to her that will help her.  Don't force the issue, the more you say to her right now the worse she will get.  The day school starts she will go.  

Good luck!

Answer 28

Try to seek her some counsling,she could be dealing with something that might of happened at school or something. Go with her and give her your support. Keep after her to talk to you might make her withdraw further in deniel of her problems and if she has anxiety I would have a doctor to check her in making sure she is o.k. physically. It sounds like she needs to talk, but in away she doesn't feel forced to. God Bless You!

Answer 29

maybe shes in shock that summer is over, happening to me because school starts next monday!!!