Help what is wrong with me?

Question

i feel really confident around boys and when i am with myself and around friends. but when i am around new people i am totally shy. I used to be really loud and talkative and now when i am around new people i barely talk and i dont feel so comfortable! its like an anxious depressed feeling. i always try to look perfect by buying expensive clothes..doing my hair everyday..buying expensive things and makeup and extreme dieting to keep fat off my body (im not anorexic tho) i eat everything. i just diet when i gained weight (i think its yoyo dieting?) anyways i dont know whats happening to me psychologically...help!! i want to change i want to be happy with myself again and talkative like i used to. i only care about apperance and looking perfect 24/7! i have anxiety/paranoia and depressed feelings most of the time!

Answer 1

Ok u try to make other people like u, you try to make them happy with your appearance. The question is r u happy with who u are?

You shouldn't give a **** about what other people think about u. You should just be yourself... If you r not happy with who u r and if you dont like yourself then how r other people supposed to like you?

That's your answer...

Answer 2

I had the shyness problem for sometime, after some people either hurt my feelings or because of insecurity around those who seemed to have it together. Prior to this, I joked around alot and was too talkative. I let society's ideal image of attractiveness and desirability make me want to be, look and behave like someone else.

It was when I saw more and more B/W interracial couples (a misnomer- there's only one race) especially where white guys were with dark-skinned women, the attention I was getting, how some people in general accepted me the way I am, that I realized I didn't have to pretend.

Secondly, I learned that God created everyone in His image for HIS purpose- to love and become like Him- not to be people pleasers. He doesn't create junk. When I developed an even closer relationship with Him through Jesus Christ, He got closer to me, and told me about His plans for my future. So now I know that if concentrate on what He wants, He'll take care of me. And I don't have to worry about confidence, status, opinions, bad news, feelings, etc. Because God is working on the inside of me, to bring the best outside. He can and will do the same for you, if you put Him in charge of your life. Visit the links below.