Help with 5 year old boy?

Question

My fiance has a 5 year old and a 3 year old son. I have been around both of them and helping to raise them both since they were 8 monhts and 2 and they both live with us. They both think of my as their mother and even call me mommy. Recently the 5 year old has been wetting the bed on pretty much a nightly basis. We've been very understanding and sympathetic about it, but he still is so embarrassed by it. When he has an accident he won't come and wake us up, he will either lay in his wet bed all night or sleep in the floor! It's really just started this week and I'm not really sure what else I can do for him, I try to tell him that everyone has accidents and that it's nothing to be ashamed of, I've asked him if he's been having bad dreams etc. I am going to go and get him so of those goodnites diaper type things for kids who wet the bed. Can anyone recommend a good brand of those? Also what else can I do to help him not be so embarassed by this? Thanks!

Answer 1

thats kinda weird that he didnt do it before and just started randomly..

make sure nothin could be happin to him

when i was molested as a child it caused me to wet the bed witch wasnt normal for me until i started being molested.

i guess to make him less embaressed. u or your fiance could talk to him and weather or not you did you should tell him that you wet the bed when you were his age that way he feels like you can relate to him?? that may help

just have a talk with him and tell him to wake u up if he wets again

Answer 2

You need to take him to the Pediatrician or if you think that will add to his embarrasment, get the doctor on the phone.  Children do not start wetting the bed out of the blue for no reason.  He could have a urinary tract infection, he could be really stressed over something that he hasn't shared with you guy's yet, if there has been some change in his routine it could be causing him anxiety.  You definitely need to get to the bottom of it.  Had he had occasional accidents all along it wouldn't be such a big deal - just cut off liquid intake a couple of hours prior to bedtime and make certain he's going to the bathroom right before getting into bed.

To help him with his embarrasment, teach him how to strip his own bed and have a sleeping bag or something handy and a change of clothes so that he can handle the problem on his own.  Put a laundry basket in his room and make sure you put waterproof pads down that he can toss in there also and another one he can put down.  I had this problem with my four year old, but she was adopted and it had been an ongoing problem.  She would cry and cry if she wet the bed.  I bought her a couple of Princess, etc. sleeping bags, showed her how to strip the sheets and pad and throw them in the hamper and made sure she had two sets of dry PJ's and two sleeping bags and pads handy every night and I left her a night light on.  After about a week she just stopped doing it and has never done it again.  Her problem was related to being moved around so much and anxiety.  Once she figured out she wasn't going anywhere (purchasing her the things she needed to handle her own problem gave her a sense of belonging to the bed, house, and people in it) she did much better.  If your little boy just started this all of a sudden, I'd speak to a doctor.  Good luck.

Answer 3

Something that works well is double making the bed.

To do this you'll need 2 waterproof mattress pads and 2 sheets.

Make the bed as you normally would and then put a 2nd layer over that so that when he wets the bed he can pull off the first layer/change and go back to sleep.

Sometimes children have accidents and it's not really their fault.  Little boys tend to have a little bit more trouble with this than girls.  Most boys learn to hold their bladder at night by age 6.  If he's already embarrassed, night time diapers may not be the answer as that could be more humiliating and detrimental to his self esteem.  Talk to him about how he is feeling.  It may be that he has an illness, infection or that his bladder muscles are not yet mature.

Answer 4

My 5 year old just started doing this as well, he however isnt embarassed, he is just like hey mom i peed, dont sit in it...   lol i was actually concerned, it isnt normal for it to all of a sudden happen on a nightly basis.  I used to give my son a glass of milk everynight before bed, i stopped doing that and now he hasnt had any accidents.  But it can also be other things like a UTI, or an emotional issue?    He is going to be embarassed no matter what, he knows he is a big boy and big boys dont do this.. just continue to reassure him its ok and it is just an accident.. and as far as the diapers.. they make quite a few for older kids.. i just saw a commercial for some pretty cool ones that dont show through his pants.. their like little underwear... but i would get to the bottom of why its happening before sticking him in a diaper, that may really upset him.

Answer 5

i do not think that it is weird for him to start wetting his bed. there is no age limit to these things but they are normal for alot of kids.if he is embarrassed bu this i wouldnt call them diapers to him but i would show him that they are made for kids his age who do the same thing.

Answer 6

Kindergarten is a big thing for kids, that could be it. I wouldn't put him in good nights, I think that would make him feel embarrassed. My son has always wet the bed at night, I've heard it's more common in boys than girls. I'm not that worried about it, I think he will grow out of it. My son now takes care of his wet cloths, wet sheets...putting them all in the laundry basket while putting on dry ones, I don't think he can help it. The make what they call pee pads too you can put under his sheets, it absorbs alot. Tell him other kids his age has accidents, tell him about my son..every night he wets the bed. Has he ever been in a structured environment before like daycare or preschool? If not then maybe let him go a day or two a week so he can get used to being away from you and having a teacher to look up to and that might help. And he if hasnt' had a past of wetting the bed it could be the start of a urinary tract infection as well. Definatly have that checked out