Help with Bulimic sister,How can I help?

Question

my sister is in a terrible condition,I don't know how to help her,it's only lately that i started noticing bulimic syptoms on her, when I was in her room yesterday I found this: "because the mirror hurts more than starving.."or something,and sometimes she smills like vomit,she is 16 and really really obsessed with perfection,mom and dad don't know she's got it well-kept, what can I do?..can't watch her collapse...

Answer 1

i know you don't want to do this but you should tell your parents, your sister is hurting herself and by not telling your parents you are enabling the situation.your sister might be mad but she will realize that you are just trying to help her get better. good luck

Answer 2

ok well her parents need to know first up. then she needs to get to a doctor. they can help! the truth will set her free.  

Answer 3

i can understand

i was actually bellimic

and i have 2 sisters and brothers

and they notced

thye were like, eat somehting

and my big brother was especially worried

but

they couldint help me

i helped myself

i had to think to myself that i was rearding myself and that i wasnt allowd to waste food lol

and then i lost it

i was all better

now i can eat like crazy, gain weight and not give a S**t lol

but tell ur sister that shes wasting food

thats wut worked for me

then again, im kind of poor so wasting matterd a lot

Answer 4

get her to a doctor quick, you can not help her only she can help herself.

Answer 5

I suffered with bulimia, and I have a younger sister. She noticed before my mom and dad did, and I kept mine extremely well hidden. You won't be able to stop her, and if you confront her she will deny it.

I would say the best thing to do, is write your concerns down, tell her how much you love her and how you hate seeing her so unhappy, then give her the letter.

She may not speak about the letter to you face to face, but I know that if my sister had written her concerns down, I would've kept the letter, and re-read it over and over again, because it shows how much they love you and that they care.

Just be there for when she needs to talk- or even just for a hug. I know some families don't do touchy feeley and feelings and stuff (personal experience there) but if you let her know non-verbally, at least she knows, and won't kick off.

Hope this helps, and if you want, you can give her my email, as I would be able to talk to her from a completely detached perspective.

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Answer 6

this is an issue that needs to be confronted as soon as possible but you need to be careful in your approach so that you don't push her farther away...  i would suggest going to your school nurse or counsler 1st so that they can advise you on what to do or maybe take matters into thier own hands so that the responsibitlity doesn't land on you.  Also, remember that all you can do is try to help but ultimatly the decision to change will be up to her and will come on her own time. though it can be very frustrating remeber to have patience and always try to be supportive (of her getting better) and loving... Please don't try to tackle this problem on your own!