Help with a 14 year old boy...Please

Question

What can i do with a smart mouth 14 year old? He's gotten moody here lately that whenever I speak to him he gets mad..is this normal? Please someone give me some advice on how to deal with this....thanks

Answer 1

It is normal for teenager to change for the worst but there is hope. You need to nip it in the bud. He needs to respect you regardless. You should talk to him and let him know his attitude has been terrible and it needs to change or else.

Answer 2

my mom's favorite line was "i'm not your friend, i'm your mother".  that friendly reminder (with the accompanying look and tone of voice) usually made me snap back.  

with that said, i still have a smart mouth :-D

sometimes teens that age need space.  They want to hang out in their room and listen to their favorite melodramatic song on repeat with their headphones in their ears.  

Tell him that you won't accept his smart mouth, BUT if he treats you with respect, you'll respect him back.  In other words, if he tells you (like an adult) that he needs space right now, or just doesn't feel like talking to you, then you'll leave him be.  while i could never tell my mom that she was annoying (and sometimes she just was it's life) i COULD say "i'm just not in a good mood right now.  nothing happened at school i'm just cranky" and she would let it go.  Which was great, cause now i can say the same things to my husband and it really helps to be able to communicate with someone without hurting their feelings.

Answer 3

you need to be firm with him show him that you are in control take away thing he likes to do tell him you will not put up with his smart mouth good luck too you

Answer 4

my daughter was the same way she is now 16 and she is totally different .I think its the age .try to give them much space as possible  

Answer 5

LOL...Does my 14 year old son live with you too OR does yours live with me? THE MOUTHS on those creatures,THAT  ATTITUDE,THAT over-blown EGO!!! Oh..Madre Dios! Seems as though they woke up one morning and had just LOST THEIR MIND doesn't it? No Worries I'm told it is Completely normal...but I have to WONDER!!!...Actually Mom, Our Sons are just growing up and learning to deal with ALL that Testosterone, you KNOW that HAS to be difficult, all these new MANLY feelings...sometimes I just shake my head and laugh, especially when I may just look at my Beautiful, Blond-haired,Blue-eyed "Boy" for a second longer than he thinks I should (I don't even have to say anything) and he says  "WHAT????" OHHHH the joys of raising Men! Especially for single moms (of which I am one,and it sounds as though you are too) don't worry mom this too shall pass,I know my boy STILL gives me the heart-tugging Adonis smile that just melts my heart...that, along with His Very Special Huge Bear-Hugs and the "I Love You MOM" gives me REAL hope for the future...LOL~~Aloha and hang in there MOM...things will be just Fine,just make sure he REMEMBERS who's BOSS...MOMMA IS! You have EARNED his RESPECT,therefore he WILL show you respect,there is no getting around that!~~Aloha~~Michelle~~

Answer 6

The joy of teenagers eh? You need to be firm and make him know that you are the adult, not him, and what you says goes. Be strict with punishments-don't back down. Teenagers test boundaries and see how far they can push parents-they also just want reassurance on where they stand. It must be hard though-they're not longer a child but they're not an adult either. Set rules and make sure he knows what they are and go from there. And good luck!!!

Answer 7

i hate to say it but as soon as a boy gets to the age of 13 he doesnt want anything to do with his parents. of course you still  have to discipline him like usual but i know thi ssounds horrible but just stay out of his way he'll come to you if he has a problem or if you notice something dramatically different go to him and be strong. good luck

Answer 8

He is 14, normal, yes. Dont back down to him and make him realize you are still the parent and in control. Smart mouths need immediate attention before it escalates. Ground him, take away the most important things. Chores and lots of them. No friends no phone, computer, no nothing...Slap his lips when he lips off. Im not talking and abuse slap in the face, im talking a shock to his system and a tiny smack in the lips with two fingers will to that.  

Answer 9

well i remember when i was 14 i was the same way

so i would say its normal at that age kids think they own the world LOL

dont worry everything will be fine just dont let him smart mouth you alot cacuse he will think its ok  

Answer 10

lol, I'm a teenager, i wasn't that bad, but on occasion was.  If Your really witty you can put him in his place but beating his arguments. If not cold discipline works too.  Just don't let in or you open the Floodgates.

Answer 11

im a 14 year old girl, and i asure you this is completely normal. all my friends dont like talking to their parents, but that is because they feel that their parents are overly controlling and dont give them enough freedom. i think that you should give your son freedom and that when you talk to him it should not be entirely made up of complaints or lists of chores that need to be completed. you need to make your son enjoy your company :D

Answer 12

Be firm with him show him you are still in control...take away his things and make him stay busy where he has no time to be smart mouth with you. He's still a kid also talk to him. Good luck!!!