Help with a friend please

Question

hey guys

a couple weeks ago i started school.it was a new school and i didn't know anybody.well a really good friend of mine wanted to go to that school but didn't live in that district. so we let her use our address to get in.

it was really good to have someone i knew there that i could sit with and talk to.

tomorrow will the fourth week of school( i go to a year round school) and i have already made alot of friends and i would like to have with them at lunch and all that.

the thing is me and her eat lunch together which I'm ok with but then after we eat she follows me around.

one time i told her i was going to meet a friend and she wanted to come. after i basically told her i wanted to go alone she got really mad and then when the next class started she was telling one of MY friends how i ditched her

so my question is how can i tell her that she will always be my friend but i have other friends i want to hang with

ps she hasn't made a lot of freinds yet

Answer 1

Ok the first answer seems a little ridiculous. Sure she is your friend and you shouldn't "ditch" her but it also is not your responsibility to find her friends...she is not YOUR responsibility. Why can't you just invite her along?

The way I see it is that she comes to this school knowing she will have you to be friends with and is probably afraid of losing you. You should talk to her about it thought NICELY and say you love her as a friend and she means a lot to you but you also have other friends in your life and she has no reason to be jealous because she won't lose you as a friend.

But you do have to follow through with this. Why can't you sometimes invite her along? Maybe not all the time but is there any reason she can't be a part of your new group of friends?

Some people are just like that though and generally grow out of it. Some people will be like that all their lives. When I was younger I'd have friends that used to get jealous of other friends. I could talk to them about it...invite everyone to hang out...but if they still didn't want me being friends with anyone else then well..that's their problem that they have to get over.

But instead of calling your new friends just YOUR friends why don't you just invite her along so you can all be friends?

After you talk to her.

Answer 2

tell her just that!..tell her that she will always be your friend but you have other friends you want to hang with.. or why not introduce her to your new firends so you all can hang and be firends...i mean it was your idea to get her there!

(how would you feel if you were her? no firends and the only friend you have wants to hang with someone else?)

Answer 3

First, you wanted your friend to come to the school.  You gave your friend the opportunity to come to the school.  You are responsible for her.  Find her some friends.  You can send her out with some kids when you have to do something.  Afterwards, tell her that she has new friends and should hang out with them.  Good luck!