Help with a person in school?

Question

Ok so i stared school 3 weeks ago. And their is this new girl. And for some reason she attached her self to my group of friends. But she is just so annoying. She repeats what my friends and i say. she copies what we do and everyday the first thing she says to me is "can i sit with you guys in sciene?" we have science last period! she litterally copies us all the time. like to day my friend asked one of our classmates for hug [we were messing aroound and were real close] and so then the girl was like i wanna hug too. and you can tell she gets on everyone nerves. even the teachers. she raises her hand and is all like "mrs______" and she sits their and yells that. and she calls our fav teacher mister when he said he doesnt like that name.

What can i do? idk how to talk to her

Answer 1

She's trying to hard to make friends. You should pity her or help her.

As far as school work goes, maybe she needs a tutor. Discuss this with the teacher that is also annoyed by her or a guidience councilor.

Be firm, be direct. You helping her will help yourself and everyone in your group. If need be turn her into a make over project like in the movie Clueless.

Answer 2

i know what you mean. people like that can be bothersome, i had to deal with someone like that last year, my junior year. what i did is i pulled that person to the side and explained the situation as nicely as possible. sometimes they need to be made aware of their actions or they will never stop. if she really thinks she is better then she wouldnt be trying to copy you and your friends, i think she may have a problem with self esteem.

Answer 3

She sounds like a totally insecure person.  If she weren't she wouldn't be trying to copy you and be with you and insist on hugs!  

It seems rude..but she is lonely and trying to find friends and fit in.  Being new and being lonely is very hard and it makes you act stupidly sometimes.  You could talk to her and tell her tactfully that she is pushing too hard to fit in and it is annoying.  

Would it really hurt you to include her and talk to her? She is asking to fit in when she asks if she can sit with you in science class.  Try to think what it would be like for you if you were new and didn't know anyone.  If you asked and everyone made fun of you wouldn't you feel hurt?  Wouldn't you try to talk to people in a group and try to be part of it.?  

I think if you let her in the group she would stop acting like that.  but if you absolutely cannot stand her...tell her to find new friends.  

I would hope though...that somewhere in your heart you have compassion and kindness and would try to include her and change YOUR attitude about her.  

Answer 4

I remember my high school days...I dealt with several girls like the one you mentioned. The best thing to do is to just ignore her. When she asks to sit next to you, don't say anything, look at her, or even acknowledge her. Eventually she'll leave you and your friends alone and go bug someone else.

Don't snap at her or say anything mean to her, because although she is annoying, she is a person just like you or me. She is 'that new girl', a title nobody likes, and obviously has no friends at her new school. She's just trying to fit in- although the manner in which she is doing it is obnoxious. I promise you that if you ignore her, or even tell her 'no thanks' when she asks to sit next to you, that she'll quit bothering you.

Edit: Okay, I understand. It's possible though that she doesn't like her other friends that much if she's trying so hard to fit in with your group of friends, copies everything you say, or asks for hugs. Either that, or maybe her friends are rejecting her lately. You would know best- you go to school with her. Girls who act like how she does are never very popular.