Help with an out of control 4 yr old?

Question

I am watching my 4yr niece for the week while her mom is away on business. She has alway been a big handful that is the main reason very few people wants to watch her . She will not listen at all ( nothing new) and this visit she started breaking stuff for no reason and when I till her no or put her in the other room she hits and trys to bite . I do not know what to do with her I only had her for 2 days and my apartment looks like I have 12 kids running around . I am ready to try anything . Advice is badly needed . Thanks

Answer 1

take her to the park so scan get energy out

plus you need to call up her mom and ask her if you can punish her child

another thing is even if she hits bight screams even tryes to brak you down and get you crying neer once give in dont take no for answer when you punish her or put her in the corner d sher gets up and runs away put her back as many tiems as it tkaes shes testing you,dont let her give you an F go for da A+!!!!

tell her  "YOU ARE NOT MY BOSS,I AM YOURS! AND YOU CANT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT!YOUR GOING TO IT IN THE CORNER AND IF YOU GET UP IM PUTTING YOU BACK"

i agree with thew first person she knows way better and shouldnt e think abotu biting you! bite her back she hits hit back do what you need to do to acert youself!Tell her what she is doing is anything but ok and talk to her tell her "YOU ARE BEING VERRY BAD AND I CAN PUNISH YOU"

after shes been in the corner for about 5-6 mins talk to her,tell her you werent only breaknig things you weer bitting and hiting me thats just not ok,then make her apologize to you and give you a hug then you can have her run along and play

Answer 2

put a stool somewhere that there is no distractions, and when ever she is not listening, I would put her on there for 4 minutes. If she gets up, you need to put her back until she stays there! You have to show her who is boss. If you are in charge of her for a week, then you are also in charge of disciplining her. and if a 4 year old bit me! I would honestly bite her back! She knows better!!! Just be persistent! If she hits you, grab the hand that hit you and give her HAND a little smack and say YOU DON'T EVER HIT ME!!!! You need to explain that what ever she is doing is bad and that if she does it, she will be in time out for 4 minutes! SHE IS 4 YEARS OLD!!!! she should know better by now!!!! You need to put your foot down, this is YOUR house.

Answer 3

spank her butt. and time out

Answer 4

Maybe she isn't getting enough attention at home, so she acts out of control. do fun stuff with her. maybe buy some arts and crafts at a store, take her to the mall and buy her ice cream or a snack, maybe take her to rent some movies and let her pick one out. If she screams and yells at you just tell her that you're going to ignore her until she is ready to behave. don't yell or act mad, just try to be calm. If you ignore her everytime she acts out and just be calm she'll eventually stop

Answer 5

Move all breakable things out of reach, because that probably can not change within a week. But find a corner and put her there when she is bad. 4 minutes per time out. Be consistent. Like the other poster said, if she gets up, put her back and restart the timer.

During the day try to let her expel her energy outside. Take away all kinds of sugar. Don't try to invade too much because she is only there for a week and some things may not subside in that amount of time.

Answer 6

Call Nanny 911!

Answer 7

food is all ways a big motivater. If she makes a mess tell her that she will not eat her meals until the mess is cleaned. Don't let her have any junk food at all. my friends kid goes extreme hyper if she has any kind of sugar. Do not allow more than 1 or 2 toys out to play with at one time. and the minute that she is done playing with them she needs to put them away. As for the biting and hitting follow the super nanny thing and put her in time out if she gets up keep putting her back until she does her time, then when her time is done talk to her about her behaviors and and what is expected of her at her age level of course.

Answer 8

wow

take her some where she wants to go and try to bond with her mabbbby if you know her more she wont be like that i know how you feel i baby sit it sucks sometimes but not all the time try doing these things with her

board games

amusment parks

play grounds

things like that

Answer 9

I actually still remember when I was 4 years old.

Generally, when I got out of control, the only woman who could control me was an old lady.  Her trick?

She let me know she was the boss without being harsh, and she talked to me a lot.

don't know if it will work with your daughter though....  every kid is different and I'm not a parent myself.

I mean, I'm speaking from the kid's point of view, not yours.

I still hope it helps though.

Answer 10

You need to get some professional help.

Its the mothers responsibilty. There could be many reasons for children acting out. Rejection, fear, sadness, rebellion and so forth.  She needs to get her in counseling and behavior managment before she becomes even worse. She is unlikely to grow out the stage.  I suggest you document everything

and take her to to the park and get all of her energy out.

You are kind and brave.  The mother really needs to step it up for her daughters sake.

Answer 11

ooh i went through the same thing and its bad more for me i had my son 3 and my nephew 4. My nephew hit my son and bit me and did a big mess. What i did i grabbed him by his arms and got on my nees and told him "John please listen to me.." if he looked away i will get him to look straight at my eyes and dont worry if she cries they will do this and even kick you.. tell her "*** listen to me ok,,, you better be good because if you are not good your mommy is not going to bring you a gift or a doll... and then she is going to be really mad at you and """"" try telling her something her mom  freaks her out with.. I tell my nephew the gost is going to come and i get the phone and call a gost and he is like " no nina i'm sorry and stays quite..." hahaha I love this... know he does what i say.. and his mom didnt mind...

Answer 12

I'm no parent but I worked at a daycare with like 90   three-six years olds running around for 2 years. Sit her down next time she bites you, and bite her back, honestly. it sounds crazy but when a kid would hit me, I would push them right back and look at them eye to eye and say "did that feel good?" Start taking away some of her privelages (sp??) too. Tomorrow morning try sitting her down and ask her what she likes to do, or what her favorite meal is and ice cream. Tell her if she behaves they way you tell her to behave you'll get her one of the 2. Her favorite meal or her favorite ice cream. But tell her if she misbehaves she won't get either. And when she breaks something of yours, pull of one of her barbies heads or something.Sorry if it's not much help but i hope it is!! Um.. and don't talk to her like she's 4 either, talk to her like she's an adult. When i "babied" kids it got me no where, you have to be firm with them and don't give in no matter what. And if she's extra good or something tell her that and make her feel good about herself so she'll want to keep doing it. Hope all works out!!!