I have an older brother and younger sister. My brother is married and has two children. I am not married, nor is my sister. The problem is, our parents try to run our lives. They are always underminding my brother and his wife about their kids. Ex: My brother can ask my mom not to give his son candy. She does it anyway, smiles and says it's not hurting anything if it's from his grandmother. This makes it obvious she did it just because he asked her not to do it. They do stuff like that all the time. It's to the point where they dread visiting them because of it.
They don't like change. If any of us are planning something different than the normal, they shoot it down. In fact, if it's anything they don't have a say in they act all pi$$y for about a week. If we go through with the plan they are pi$$y for a month of so. They feel we should consult them on everything. If we don't, they get mad and accuse us of being ungreatful or acting better than them. My sister is in college and they have her call them every time she does something. Calls them when she starts studying, bath,store, class, etc...SHe call then about 25 times a day. They want to know every detail about my life. If they think I am not telling them something they will get pi$$y towards my for weeks. They get pi$$ed over nothing.
We all welcome any advise from them and respect them, but they are trying to run our lives. When we tell them how we feel, they get mad.
If we listened to everything they said we would be miserable. They think we should not spend a dime of money and try to find out how much we have in savings, checking, etc... I can see my sister, but me and my brother are on our on. It's none of their business. I feel like they still think we are 6 years old and can't make a decision. But, they are our parents and we should respect them. How can we let them know they have crossed the line of giving advice and trying to run our life without causing a mess?
These are only a few examples of the stuff they do to have control over us. Any help will be welcome. Thanks
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