Help with emotional problems please

Question

Me(22) and my ex(25) and my 3 year-old son's mother broke our 4 year relationship in april, when she broke up she made up reasons but later i've found out that she was talking to a particular guy since march. I was devastated when i found out. Now, i feel like i've been living in a nightmare ever since, my dreams and future are crushed, but i am trying to do better. This woman has betrayed me and hurt me so bad, sometimes i wonder how i am going to get over this. Recently she showed up with her new man to pick up my son. It was low of her doing it but i've expected it from her. At this point, there is absolutely nothing i can do except to try to get over this and move on. I wake up and have nightmares most of the time, and the image of her in my head is killing me. I wanna forget everything and move on again, Can someone help or some words that can help me through this?!?!?

Answer 1

1.  See your attorney.  Get any custody/visitation and child support agreement in writing and made legal.

2.  Read:

Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends

by Bruce Fisher (Author)

It is available at amazon.com.

3.  Stay busy.  Take a class, join a gym, learn a new hobby.  Keep busy.

4.  If still troubled, seek counseling.  There is grief counseling available.

Answer 2

You can't forget everything. Trying to forget can often make things worse. You need to work through this and deal with your feelings about the situation otherwise you will never be able to move on with your life. I would suggest you start by maybe writing a letter to your ex. You don't actually have to send the letter, but it might make you feel better to get everything out and say exactly how you are feeling.

The next thing you need to do is just give it some time. Things just don't go away overnight. Yeah, it looks like it did for her - but she is taking the easy way out by not dealing with her feelings and will face the consequences in the long run.

Try to be a strong and better person for your son. Your son is what should keep you going throughout all of this. He is going to need his father.

I wish that I had magic words that I could say to you to make everything better - unfortunately the only thing that I can do is tell you to just give it some time. You will move forward when you have dealt with all of your feelings...and for that you will be a better father and partner.

Answer 3

It`ll all pass. Remember that this too shall pass.

I understand that this hurts you now, but remember that the longer you dwell on it, the longer it`ll take you to see how useless this is. She`s clearly not for you and for whatever the reasons you two are no longer together.

Soon you will also meet a wonderful woman who you should treat with absolute love and respect and expect none less. Just prioritize your life, be active and spend quality time with your son and always be healthy and look forward to a bright future.

Also please know what you want from a relationship and make sure that future children come after marriage so stability is more determined.

All the very best and keep your chin up! Everything happens for a reason. You`ll see!

Answer 4

Well ...come on ...so she won't leave you with a smile!... Its time to meet them...

Answer 5

I know this seems like of weird but you should be so grateful that she left now instead of after 20 years.  She must not be much of a person to break up in that fashion.  It is really hard to move on, but time is a great healer, until then it is probably just healthier to grieve the relationship and then in a few weeks or months maybe you should find a new woman