Help with high school...and "friends"?

Question

okay so monday i start my first day of high school. i'm going to the same school i've been going to since 6th grade, but i still don't have many friends. in 6th and 7th grade i was a tomboy and had a camo backpack and stuff and liked sports and all that. that was fine at my elementary school but definitely not ok when i got to middle school. well i made a badd first impression and now all the people there think i'm still like that. people make fun of me and stuff even though i've changed. i haven't talked to or seen anybody from my grade all summer because i was hanging out with people that i do gymnastics with (they are my real friends). during the summer i was in a facebook fight and one of the popular girls said everybody thought i was just a loser with a camo backpack that ate lunch alone, and that bothered me a lot even though some of the other people tried to tell me that they didn't thnk that. and yesterday was prep day and i wore nice clothes and all and straightened my hair and got it highlighted over the summer and only like 3 people said hi to me. i'm scared about going back to school because i'm afraid they will tease me even more. i've always heard that high school is supposed to be fun so i don't want to miss out on that. i want to change schools really bad, or move or something. my mom thinks that i have friends at school still. i'm so confused and i just don't know what to do!!!! please help me!!!!

Answer 1

I think that you should look for some of the new kids that might've moved it during the summer, and see if you can hang out with them. That's what I'm gonna try to do.

Answer 2

I know exactly how u feel I went through the same thing.I was always a tomboy but when I got to high school I wanted to change but i was scared that people would laugh @ me.But now I'm a junior and everything is different. I have changed so much and now i have more friends then i ever had be4.I'm so happy i did it!Just don't be scared be who u wanna be and it really doesn't matter what people think as long as your happy that is all that really matters.Just go 4 it don't hold back!

Answer 3

Be confident and stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. Usually its what you think they are thinking and not true. If only 3 people said Hi to you..How many did you say Hi to??? Make yourself more approachable by talking to people and responding when talked to. When someone says Hi, say something like "Hi, whats goin' on today? or Hi, Having a good day so far?" Just stop expecting people to come to you. You need to talk to them too. About the girl that tried to make you feel bad and unfortunately succeeded...IGNORE her and anything she says. Having fun starts with you, you cant expect people to do things for you. :)

Answer 4

Maybe your neighborhood isn't that nice. Just be yourself don't try to change who you are. I was kind of a loner in 2nd grade. But in 7th grade I found some friends but then one of them betrayed me so I was alone again, but then I found some friends they were like all one year older than me but they were very nice. In highschool I made more friends,I was shy and quiet too not every atheletic. But In highschool there are lots of variety of people you just have to keep your mind open you'll find some friends.

Answer 5

I know people get one bad impression and they treat you bad for the rest of your life. Just ignore the popular stuck up brats. They just make fun of people to make themselves feel good. I am sure you have a few friends. Just hang out with them. Those people that hear all the rumors and what the popular people say but are still your friend, are the true friends. If you dont have any true friends, meet new people. Join clubs and stuff your interested in. I promise there has got to be al least ONE person in high school that wants a great friend like you. Seriously. And if your a tomboy be a tomboy. Don't change who you are for some Lame stuck up idiots. Be who you are which in your case is a tomboy. Do sports and whatever you like. As far as the camo backpack, if you don't want to be made fun of just get a plain color, like purple, blue or green. You cant be made fun of for a having a plain blue backpack. Anyways, Good Luck!!! Hope I helped. :)

Answer 6

i don't know you but i think u are a very nice guy.

How about your style? Do u follow the fashion?????????

                       You MUST!!!!!

How about trying to do things other boys do???????

Go out with cool guys and girls and try to don't disagree all time with them!!!!!

I hope u good luck!!!

Answer 7

i just started high school to. i don't have to many Friends either. and with all the classes throughout the school, i didn't get any with my friends. wat i did was just start talking to some1 in my classes that was in the same boat as me and now i have new friends in all my classes. even if your nervous just try it. it works. good luck and i hope you have fun in high school. i hope i do 2!

Answer 8

just ignore them because they are jealous that they aren't friends with you

Answer 9

wow, highschool can be sooo hard :( sorry for what you are going through.

do you have any friends at school, even one ? all you need is to make at least one friend who accepts you as you are and start from there.

as far as the jerks go that are talking smack about you, you have a couple options,

1- the obvious, just ignore them, dont look at them dont talk to them, dont look defeated, sad or embarrassed, just blow them off entirely ( hard to do i know)

2- stand up for yourself and for others that they mess with. whether you feel tough or not, you can act tough and confident and just throw it back in thier faces.

ask them why they care what yoiu wear, tell them to get a life and worry about their own lack of style. call them out on it, be loud and firm in front of other kids and say what is true, why do they need to cut down on others to make themselves feel better ?

i think if you go with option #2 you will gain a few friends in the process and make the jerks feel stupid, but if you are gonna stand up for yourself, you really need to know what to say, how to say it, and when to pick your battles.

in the ,meantime, just dress and act as you are, do not try to change just in the hopes that these "popular" kids will like you or leave you alone.

just focus on your studies and befriend some other kids that are on the outs .

be strong baby !!!  

Answer 10

dont worry about it. in high school people get more mature about stuff.

plus this is a chance to prove people wrong. ;)

and about that popular girl, she just might be jealous that she cant do gymnastics as good as you.

just take it easy and the people that you hang out with will lke you for who you are :)

Answer 11

when people have to make fun of you, something is going on with them. Ignore the,, there just haters, I had them too, still do, I'm a junior in high school. You have to realize that your just going to be you, and don't change for anyone. Make friends with the new kids, or other people. I hope you have a great year. =]

Answer 12

been there, done that.

i was dethroned as queen bee at my last school, so im starting a new school. my ex-BFF started some HARSH stuff about me and so thats how I sank. I was lonely and somewhat an outcast and it really hurt. On the bright side, i was queen bee of my dance crew! we have a bunch of hott skater guys and really gorgeous and perfected girls in our group. It was like weird because  i was so used to being likeable in 2 places, and now i am held high-esteem in my dance crew, while hated in my own school! I was liked in my school and believe me, populars are totally different than uve imagined. The older we get, the more *****y we become. We unimaginably feed on gossip. We keep our cool, but we get reallyy dramatic. Its hard to explain, but when we really hate someone, then we tell our group and unfotunately, we make their life a living h**l. I had 4 different skools on my side and 2 schools on theirs. SO MUCH DRAMA! Many things were posted on Myspace, Facebook, Stickam, and most of the stuff were printed out and found out by the principal!!!!!!! This was THE WORST year EVER. I really advise u to go to a new school and start over because things will be much more HORRIBLE than you expect! If your hated by one of the popular girls in your school, then the kids will go with them because if they stay with someone hated, they will be teased too and no one wants that. Id tell your mom to immediately move you out of school because i KNOW what its like. IVE BEEN THERE ALL THE WAY! I almost got expelled TWICE because of all this drama! This is reality, and its h**l. Im trying my hardest to help you. If you need any tips, just message me

ps - dont tease them back!!! THEY WILL CRUSH YOU.

♥.Q.B.

Answer 13

You go to school to get an education. But the fact that you do spend the majority of your life at school, you do wanna be around people that like you and people you can talk to. You shouldnt let "popular" people put you down and to me, theres no such thing as being "popular". People will try and put you down and you shouldnt let them. They will continue to talk to you like that because they know they can get away with it, don't let them. Because you feed into it and they know thats what you're always gonna do. Im not saying pick fights but stand up for yourself sweetie. You shouldnt have to change for anybody to try and fit in. Just be yourself. If you have friends at your gym. practice that are your REAL friends then thats all you need babe :) if you wanna talk more about this situation with me outside of yahoo my email address is [e-mail] :) hope ive been of some help, good luck :)

Answer 14

Don't worry if they tease you ignore them or tease em back. Dun hold back or be scared and dun be shy to make friends just be happy.

Answer 15

well i was a tomboy when i was in the 6th and 7th grade too, i also changed and started wearing more girly clothes but that didnt really change my friends, i did start getting closer with more guys because of it though, if your going into high school all i can tell you is to wait it out because people mature A LOT and start going there different ways, dont worry so much about it and just go with the flow, who cares who you are friends with as long as you have some nice ones. be yourself and that will get you far in the long run