Help with insecurities

Question

Im 17 and im very insecure about my image, especially my face/head. Im contsantly changing the way i view it. Sometimes ill think im good looking and sometimes I will hate my looks and get depressed, Is this all in my head and is it normal? - I get told im good looking and ive never been told im ugly, however I dont exactly get a queue of girls outside my house.....Thanx

Answer 1

You need to just learn to love yourself....not in a hey look at me type way but for you to realise that you are you and except who you are and what you look like.

I think the majority of people experience low confident days

Answer 2

Look at yourself

    Are you one of life's worriers? Your character or family upbringing may make you worry easily. But learn to change negative ways of thinking. There are two ways of looking at a cup of water. The negative way says, "The cup is half empty". But the positive way sees the same cup, yet says, "The cup is half full." OK, its difficult. What we actually need is a new mind, that thinks differently! But yes, this is possible!

You must have an assertive behavior.Arouse the courage to take small steps in learning to experience success and overcome your lack of self confidence. Build on it to gain the courage to act out of a strong conviction in their self-goodness and worth.Break the barrier or outer shell of the self-doubt they have hidden behind and reach out to others. Breaking out of their ``shells'' requires letting go of past hurts (real or imagined) and moving on with life.

Open yourself to the possibility of success and accomplishment. Visualize or make a prophecy of winning at life so their energies are focused in a growth direction. Set aside your negative thoughts and learn to love yourself.  

Answer 3

This is a very common thing with kids your age.  So common as to be universal.

It really does not matter how good looking you are.  Keep yourself clean and neatly dressed ......do your job whatever that is at the moment. Choose your friends from those who are positive and not negative people.

Get a clear picture of the person you want to become and work towards that.  

Do you talk to girls at school or work or what ever place where you are or do you stand back and wait for them to come to you?  Guess what! They are waiting for you to come to them. Girls are as insecure as you are.

Work at becoming the person you want to be don't be a head counter or notch carver. When you do find her you will be in a position to do something about it not just keep saying "when I..."  

Think about school and getting an education so you can be ready for life don't rush it.

Depression is a selfish thing about all this.  Don't look for yourself to be reflected off others. The only person you have to please right now is yourself.  Look at things like that and you will do fine.  

Answer 4

i was the same.  My mother always told me it does not matter what you look like on the outside, but what is in the inside the counts

Answer 5

Ooh! Ya! Been there, done that, MANY times! Agree with the first answer (I can survive), and no one's actually 'ugly'/ 'beautiful'. People just don't have anything better to do, and some people fall for society's crappy ways of being.

  Its like when people said 'ducks were ugly'. Growing up - there were no ducks around, but when I did see one recently - bygod they are so darn beautiful! So is everything else.

  When you see the beauty in everyone else - you see the beauty in all of yourself! :)