Help with mother in law

Question

My mother in law is VERY JEALOUS of me. I have always been very respectful too her and tried to be nice and do things nice for her but shes been very spiteful too me. Since we got married she has tried to drive a wedge between me and my husband and it almost worked but obviously not we seperated for about a month in half but we recently got back together and i discovered i am pregnant and i am so excited about this and so is my husband. She is spreading rumors that i cheated and i am not carrying his baby which is complete and utter bullshit. We live an hr away from her in the same town as her ex husband and wife and my parents live. When she calls she says u need to move closer and you need to ditch the ***** to my husband. She recently sent messages your tricks will never work u s**t. Your the biggest ***** i know and you have stolen my son. Her daughter wants nothing to do with her mother and me and her have become best friends. I don't want this woman involved with our baby at all. I am not going to let her see the baby until she cleans her act up. Most recently she tried to get my husband to choose between her and me and he choose me. When he told her i am pregnant she started wearing black for sorrow for the grandchild cause she said it has me for a mother. She is very racist and very much a closed minded woman and that part of the reason she hates me I was adopted and my birthfather was a half jewish and she doesn't like me because of that. Eventhough i look like everyone else blonde hair blue eyes. She says i wish hitler killed your family so you were never born.

Answer 1

She is harassing you. Get a restraining order on her. If she violates it she will have to face a judge.  

Answer 2

Holy c**p, sounds like you are married to my boyfriend's brother, but hes an only child.... Basically i told his mother that if she did not stop talking trash about me and my relationship with her son that that i would take her to court bc my reputation and my character was not a joke and nor was what she was doing a game that i was serious and was not going to be a part of her childish games.  Its not perfect, but its better.  Tell her that she is not to talk trash about you or your child and that if she cares nothing more about her own grandchild than to morn for it, that she is to be no part of its life and that if she continues to talk about you that you will take her to court for defamation of character...

Depends on how serious you want to be!  But by her doing this, it very obviously puts stress on your relationship with your husband and thats not fair to you, your marriage or your unborn child!

Good luck, be firm with her.  I have, unfortunately, lost all respect for my...to be mother-in-law.

Answer 3

Sorry to sound so honest about this, but I doubt she'll ever clean up her act. I'm really sorry to hear that your mother-in-law is close-minded, I can only imagine how frustrating it is!

I wouldn't have her see OR have the baby around her PERIOD. For someone to be sending you slanderous things like that, and also say racist things, you need to talk to your husband and your husband's sister about this. Anything they can do? Have you stood up for yourself when she says these things? I would say that if the messages keep coming and things seem to get worse, tell your mother-in-law you're going to have the authorities involved if she doesn't stop and if it escalates at any point. You don't need to be stressed out like this during your pregnancy anyway, so do the best you can to ignore it. Cut of communication from her completely. I'm sure that it'll probably be hard because your husband is your son and all, but the more you disconnect yourself from her the better it could get.

Good luck!!

Answer 4

Tell Your Husband To Come With You To Go To Your Mother In Law's House And Tell Her Right In The Face, "I Don't Care What Kind Of Racist Problem's You Have With Me, But If You Don't Clean Up Your Act I Will Not Hesitate To Bring You Down If You Come Near My Baby."

(that goes for husband and child)

Answer 5

Count yourself lucky you have such a supportive husband. Life is too short to put up with this kind of s**t, and you do not have to. Talk to your husband and let him know just how much this is affecting you, then sever all communication and contact with your mother-in-law, if necessary change your phone number and go ex-directory. Do not talk to her at any stage. To start with she will try and needle you to get a reaction, be strong and resist. Kia Kaha

Answer 6

OMG.. she is horrible. I would never have anything to do with her and your husband shouldn't either. His first priority is to you and your child. He should be telling his mother that if she does not treat you with respect that he will not be in her life. If he does not do this and continues to listen to his mother treat you like she does he is not worth being married to. She is evil, pure and simple.. and that unborn child is going to be her grandchild.. does she wish it wasn't a live as well? I doubt she'd ever set eyes on the child if it were mine.

Answer 7

She lost her rights to grandchildren when she disrespected you. Just like she trying to protect her son, you protect your child and make sure your husband knows about everything she is doing and that he agrees with your decision.

Answer 8

Ignore the See You Next Tuesday.  Refuse to be a part of the family.  Refuse to allow her to see the grandchild.  Other than those options you're stuck.