Help with mother-in-law

Question

My mother in law is VERY JEALOUS of me. I have always been very respectful too her and tried to be nice and do things nice for her but shes been very spiteful too me. Since we got married she has tried to drive a wedge between me and my husband and it almost worked but obviously not we seperated for about a month in half but we recently got back together and i discovered i am pregnant and i am so excited about this and so is my husband. She is spreading rumors that i cheated and i am not carrying his baby which is complete and utter bullshit. We live an hr away from her in the same town as her ex husband and wife and my parents live. When she calls she says u need to move closer and you need to ditch the ***** to my husband. She recently sent messages your tricks will never work u s**t. Your the biggest ***** i know and you have stolen my son. Her daughter wants nothing to do with her mother and me and her have become best friends. I don't want this woman involved with our baby at all. I am not going to let her see the baby until she cleans her act up. Most recently she tried to get my husband to choose between her and me and he choose me. When he told her i am pregnant she started wearing black for sorrow for the grandchild cause she said it has me for a mother. She is very racist and very much a closed minded woman and that part of the reason she hates me I was adopted and my birthfather was a half jewish and she doesn't like me because of that. Eventhough i look like everyone else blonde hair blue eyes. She says i wish hitler killed your family so you were never born.

Answer 1

I think your mother in law should get together with mine. Mine is so pathetic and evil. Before i even got pregnant she tried to tell my husband (her own son) that he had the mumps when he was little and that the doctor said he would never be able to get kids and told him "If she ends up pregnant you will know it is not yours"....He called alot of his family members to ask if he had mumps when he was little and they everyone said NO.

She told people that my son did not belong to him...He looks just like my husband....My husband cussed her for that and we stopped going around her for a long time. She did not see our son until he was 4 months old but if i could go back i would have made it longer.

She is always trying to cause trouble in saying things like she is cheating on you and i am at home everyday with our son....I have never cheated and she has called me names like you said (but not to my face, it is always done behide my back) I am not a wh*re at all, i am not the one with three kids by three different men.

She is always going on about something but i try not to let it bother me as she must be so bored with her life that this is all she has to do is sit back and think up fake stuff and cause trouble.

I believe she has no sense, no one can stand her.

Your mother in law is just a troublemaker and she must dont want you with her son.

I have been with my husband for 13 years and i am telling you if we ever divorce it will be because of his screwed up in the head family.

Just look over her, don't visit and live your life without her around.

She is not going to stop acting that way. She will say anything to try and cause trouble between you and her son.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Wow, what a psycho. To be quite honest with you, I would say that this is the time that you should be enjoying the experience of your pregnancy, and not worrying about this woman. At the end of the day, she isnt going to change any time soon, and although I am sure that it is incredibly stressful for you, maybe it is time for you to sit down and write a letter. I would probably spell out in very clear language that her behaviour has been unacceptable to you, and that she is ruining the relationship between her son and herself and her future grandchildren. When it comes to mother in laws, trust me, most of them cant stand seeing their precious sons in love with another woman. Its a weird thing, some women just cant let go. I would also suggest that your husband and yourself try to take some time out together, and focus on the positive things in your life. Maybe do some meditation together, or spend time talking to your baby. If you live away from this woman, change your home phone and mobile number and make it impossible for her to contact you, your stress will lessen. Trust me, as time goes by, she will realise that you will be the one choosing her retirement home.....*evil grin* - no, in all seriousness, the other option is for your husband to stand up and tell her that her behaiour has got to stop. If it is a jealousy issue, and she just wants her son all to herself, HE is going to have to put his foot down, not you. The reason for this is that HE is the one that she cares about. I would get your husband to lay some stiff rules down. That comment about hitler killing your family is sickening. All the best with your pregnancy - enjoy this time! BTW, dont leave her on her own with your child. EVER. Even if things get better.  

Answer 4

Time to turn the page and move on. She obviously upsets you this is what she wants. Why else would she say such hateful things? Be super polite to her when you do speak to her, this will drive her NUTS!

Although, personally I would get an unlisted number and a restraining order.

Answer 5

I'm sorry you have to deal with all this emotional stress she is causing.  Until she straighens up block her number from your phone and try to ignore her.  It will be her fault she isn't involed in her grand child's life.

Answer 6

WOW! You totally have me beat! LOL! At least your husband is picking you over her and being supportive. Thats all that counts. Shes just being a selfish and immature hag and eventually she'll get over it when she sees things are not going her way. Those were some preety harsh things she said, Im glad you kept your cool. I would limit or completely eliminate time spent with her so you wont be stressed. Tell your hubby to have all contact with her and you dont want to know anything she says. Focus on your fam and be glad the husband is doing the same. Congrats!!!

Answer 7

Wow, that IS very childish and racist and just plain awful behaviour.  I think you need to have a talk with your husband and make sure you are both on the same page.  My advice is that you BOTH cut her out of your lives until she apologizes to you and promises to behave the way she should - respectfully.  She needs to know that he will not accept her behaviour.  If he keeps talking to her, she will think that her behaviour is okay with him.  My father-in-law has been awful to us, and to this day has not met his 5 month old granddaughter.  It will stay that way until he treats us BOTH with respect.  I would not want my child around such an awful person.  Who knows what she is capable of if she seriously wishes Hitler had killed your family.  She does not deserve to have a relationship with her grandchild with the way she is acting.  How AWFUL.  I'm so sorry that you have to deal with a person like that.  Good luck.

Answer 8

??? OMG what a nightmare!! I would NOT want this woman in my childs life either. How old is this lady? For Gods sake....she needs to grow up. Her son will always need her as a mother but he needs his own family as well...so MELLOW OUT sheesh! What does your husband think of this? I think he needs to do most of the talking and have a nice long conversation about how things need to be if she wants to stay in his life and his FAMILY (you and the baby!!) This is something he needs to communicate with her...and fast before that baby is born. Good luck!